Unfortunately, integrating her with my other two is not going well. She just slipped out of her room while I was going in and flat out attacked one of them. Had to beat them both with a pillow to get them apart. Not sure she's ever going to be fully integrated. :-(
Cats identify each other by smell and sometimes it takes time to do an introduction slowly. We kept Mika and Bijou separated for a full month except for supervised visits. Swap out any blankets or towels to get them used to each other's smells. Try putting a dab of vanilla on the base of the tail and the top of the head so they all smell the same.
She has other issues (past abuse) so getting a harness on her is nearly impossible. I'm not rushing, she's just great at slipping out the door to the bedroom when I go in. And baby gates are no match for her.
I agree with going slow.
I have some possibly helpful ideas I can share, if you can explain what you mean by flat out attach. I have a DSH Shadow who I love but has tried to kill all of my cats including her own mother. Also when I say killed I mean had them by the throat as if they where a prey animal she would hunt outside.
That's what I'm wondering if she's doing. I've never had a cat this talkative, so I can't tell if something's wrong or she's just talking. How do you tell?
My other two cats hate each other but coexist, so I quite understand the concept.
The first part of my recommendation is to rub each cat with a separate towel and then give it to the other cat. In other words rub cat A with a towel and then give it to cat B. Then so own down the line.
