How wonderful for your first cat to be such a positive experience! I totally understand what you mean by having a calm, polite cat. My Callie is a very polite kitty. She doesn't jump up on the counter, she's not demanding unless it's past feeding time, she doesn't meow incessantly, she understands what's "her space" and what's not, and she knows that she's to come get in her bed at night-night time. Callie is my first cat and it's been such a wonderful experience. Now we have 2 cats, and while Hannah's not as polite as Callie, she's still a very well behaved cat.