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OK so my girl Trixie is about 2 years old. I got her as a kitten when she was around 2 to 3 months old, she wasnt socialized when we got her and unfortunitly she was sick with servere ring worm so i had to isolate her becuase my little brother who was only coming on the weekends an was 5 at the time was also dealing with a case of ring worm from school, so to avoid further infection for either of them i kept them apart when he was here. And also my grandmother didnt really like her or the idea of having a cat in the house.
Sadly it took a couple of months for the ring worm to heal and for my grandmother to adjust to the cat, which means months of basically just me an her in the room playing so she is good with me. With my grandmother getting used to having around, but still has a love hate realtionship with her she became comfortable around her too.
Now her relationship with my little brother who has since then moved in with us an is now 6 going on 7 next week, and has behaviour issues we are working on, hasn't been a good one because he was always chasing around the house and throwing things at her and screaming at her and done some pretty means things to her in the past while i am going to say that lately he was been more relaxed around her and has basically done a 360, I don't know if it because he maturing because he about to be 7 or what but he has relaxed with her she still pretty iffy with him an even still attacks him sometimes but I have noticed lately along with his change in behaviour she has been hiding less when he home she even been playing with him a little even though she mostly tries to stay in the rooms where is not in so that's a work in progress.
So that being said I know that all that has a big part as to why she is skittish...but let me explain her behaviour...
When my brothers not here she is a normal cat she runs she play throughout the entire apartment she loves to look out the window she sits on top of the TV she annoys my mother by pushing the things off her dresser she bothers my grandmother she does her normal cat stuff that she always done...
When my brother gets home she does the same except in the room because he spends most of his time in the living room.
Here the real issue, when other people come over who don't live here you don't see her she hides under the bed she wont come out to eat or use the litter box I have to find her an bring her to the bathroom every couple of hours an bring her, her food an water an close the door for her to come out an eat it. We have had this system for the entire time we've had her. We do it everytime and has become habbit of our when there company we know the routine.
I know this is a problem but I didn't think she had it that bad until yesterday. We had family over and we were all getting ready to leave the house, my grandmother told me to take Trixie out the room because lately she has been breaking the shades on the window and no one was going to be home to watch her, so I grabbed her and I took her to the living room and she goes into full panic mood she starts crying hysterically meowing runs straight to the door of the room franticly trying to push the door open her paw was getting stuck in between the door I tried to take her an put her under the couch to see if she felt better there no she just ran back to the door meowing like crazy almost hurting herself to try and get back into the room my grandmother even tried to spray her with the water bottle that she usually runs from if you just show it to her when she scratching the chairs an she didn't even care she was getting wet she just wanted to go back into the room
I never seen her like this I didn't think the problem was that bad! so i just opened the door an let her back in because she was just so frantic. I know your probably going to say she needs a place where she can feel comfortable at all times but I'm just not in a place right now to afford my own place where she can be with just me. So I don't know how to help her but i just feel horrible that she living like this in fear and is that skittish someone please give me advice on how I can help my baby i wont give her away because she my baby she is so attached to me and I to her.. I just need some advice on what I can do...please thank you
Sadly it took a couple of months for the ring worm to heal and for my grandmother to adjust to the cat, which means months of basically just me an her in the room playing so she is good with me. With my grandmother getting used to having around, but still has a love hate realtionship with her she became comfortable around her too.
Now her relationship with my little brother who has since then moved in with us an is now 6 going on 7 next week, and has behaviour issues we are working on, hasn't been a good one because he was always chasing around the house and throwing things at her and screaming at her and done some pretty means things to her in the past while i am going to say that lately he was been more relaxed around her and has basically done a 360, I don't know if it because he maturing because he about to be 7 or what but he has relaxed with her she still pretty iffy with him an even still attacks him sometimes but I have noticed lately along with his change in behaviour she has been hiding less when he home she even been playing with him a little even though she mostly tries to stay in the rooms where is not in so that's a work in progress.
So that being said I know that all that has a big part as to why she is skittish...but let me explain her behaviour...
When my brothers not here she is a normal cat she runs she play throughout the entire apartment she loves to look out the window she sits on top of the TV she annoys my mother by pushing the things off her dresser she bothers my grandmother she does her normal cat stuff that she always done...
When my brother gets home she does the same except in the room because he spends most of his time in the living room.
Here the real issue, when other people come over who don't live here you don't see her she hides under the bed she wont come out to eat or use the litter box I have to find her an bring her to the bathroom every couple of hours an bring her, her food an water an close the door for her to come out an eat it. We have had this system for the entire time we've had her. We do it everytime and has become habbit of our when there company we know the routine.
I know this is a problem but I didn't think she had it that bad until yesterday. We had family over and we were all getting ready to leave the house, my grandmother told me to take Trixie out the room because lately she has been breaking the shades on the window and no one was going to be home to watch her, so I grabbed her and I took her to the living room and she goes into full panic mood she starts crying hysterically meowing runs straight to the door of the room franticly trying to push the door open her paw was getting stuck in between the door I tried to take her an put her under the couch to see if she felt better there no she just ran back to the door meowing like crazy almost hurting herself to try and get back into the room my grandmother even tried to spray her with the water bottle that she usually runs from if you just show it to her when she scratching the chairs an she didn't even care she was getting wet she just wanted to go back into the room
I never seen her like this I didn't think the problem was that bad! so i just opened the door an let her back in because she was just so frantic. I know your probably going to say she needs a place where she can feel comfortable at all times but I'm just not in a place right now to afford my own place where she can be with just me. So I don't know how to help her but i just feel horrible that she living like this in fear and is that skittish someone please give me advice on how I can help my baby i wont give her away because she my baby she is so attached to me and I to her.. I just need some advice on what I can do...please thank you
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