Please consider the suggestions Laurie offered. She has experience that could benefit you and your cat. Following her advice and in the order she listed will help. Going in the room, even though PJ's were needed, before taking the steps Laurie listed could be taken as a sign of aggression. You can help him now just as you did before. Three years of trusting you is in your favor. Hang in there and it will get better.Originally Posted by LDG
Open the bedroom door and don't wait, don't watch, just leave it open. Go sit and read a book or whatever. Just ignore him completely.
At no point look at your kitty in the eyes. Don't reach out to him. Look near him, over his head, at his forehead. But reaching toward him and looking him in the eyes are signs of aggression.
Laurie