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Hello everyone! Welcome to my first post ever on TCS! I have a few questions about the little bugger of a cat I got a week ago from the humane society, named Adonis (because he's a real lady killer). I am not at all new to owning cats, HOWEVER, I AM new to owning cats by myself, on my own, as my own responsibility. See I grew up with cats in my family, but there were always other people around when I was away at work or school or what have you that could look after kitty so we would never be lonely. Fast forward a bit, and here I am in my own apartment, living on my own. However, I suffer from extreme anxiety and it was becoming harder and harder not having a little creature around to help me keep myself distracted and to a routine so I wouldn't ball up and succumb to my anxiety (have had anxiety and depression all my life, and only when I had pets did I feel better. Best therapy, I swear). So in comes Adonis, this beautiful cat who just stole my heart when I saw him in the "get acquainted room." He was instantaneously sweet, and his cat surrender questionnaire listed him as friendly towards family, but mostly solitary and quiet, and he was given up because a family member was moving in who was allergic. The humane society also attested that he was affectionate but oftentimes by himself and would come up to you when he wanted affection. I thought great, he would be a good cat to have seeing as he's a bit older (around three years) and I work. Including commute time, I am gone around 11 hours of the day. I know that seems long, but I figured due to his affectionate, but seemingly solitary nature, he would do fine by himself while I was at home. So I picked him up and whisked him away to my place.
He was, to be expected, a bit skittish. As stated, I live in an apartment, so he was a growler at the noises of the other people around him, but he has seemed to relax with that now. He is very affectionate and walked around like he owned the place on the second or third day. The week I have had him, when I was at work and then returned, he didn't seem to be in distress - he was not urinating or defecating anywhere but his litterbox, and it looked like he was eating all his food, which I would put down just before I left for work. When I came home, he would obviously want a lot of attention, and would run to me with tail held high and lots of headbutts. He gets playtime just before work and just before bed, and affection anytime he wants it.
However, I think I've got it in my head that I might be doing him a disservice leaving him alone so much for two reasons... One is his breed. While he was simply listed as a domestic longhair, I am around 70% certain he is a Ragdoll cat, or some mix of. He looks almost like a spitting image of many seal point ragdolls I have seen, and has the coat and has a tendency to go limp in my arms. (Ragdoll owners, please deny or confirm this - picture will be listed below!) I hear they are the greatest cats in every way, but are known to be needy of their people's attention and get depressed if they go too long without it. Second, I notice he has a habit of overgrooming or occasionally ripping his fur out. He has minor mats in his fur which he has had since I got him, and I have been doing my best to work them out of his fur with grooming. When he rips his fur out, it seems he is mostly focusing on the mats. Also, when we are playing, sometimes he'll be all into it just to suddenly stop and turn and begin vigorously grooming himself... Only to resume play again.
I guess what I am wanting to know is... With what I said, could his excessive grooming and hair pulling be results of separation anxiety? Boredom? Or do you think it's just because he's new to the apartment and hasn't totally familiarized himself with the place and my routines yet? I am trying my hardest to compensate for my time away with lots of play and attention, but I sometimes wonder if that might not be overstimulating him. Any thoughts, even if they are a bit outside of the box, are welcome. He really is such a sweet cat, and I only want what's best for him.
By the way, here's my baby!
He was, to be expected, a bit skittish. As stated, I live in an apartment, so he was a growler at the noises of the other people around him, but he has seemed to relax with that now. He is very affectionate and walked around like he owned the place on the second or third day. The week I have had him, when I was at work and then returned, he didn't seem to be in distress - he was not urinating or defecating anywhere but his litterbox, and it looked like he was eating all his food, which I would put down just before I left for work. When I came home, he would obviously want a lot of attention, and would run to me with tail held high and lots of headbutts. He gets playtime just before work and just before bed, and affection anytime he wants it.
However, I think I've got it in my head that I might be doing him a disservice leaving him alone so much for two reasons... One is his breed. While he was simply listed as a domestic longhair, I am around 70% certain he is a Ragdoll cat, or some mix of. He looks almost like a spitting image of many seal point ragdolls I have seen, and has the coat and has a tendency to go limp in my arms. (Ragdoll owners, please deny or confirm this - picture will be listed below!) I hear they are the greatest cats in every way, but are known to be needy of their people's attention and get depressed if they go too long without it. Second, I notice he has a habit of overgrooming or occasionally ripping his fur out. He has minor mats in his fur which he has had since I got him, and I have been doing my best to work them out of his fur with grooming. When he rips his fur out, it seems he is mostly focusing on the mats. Also, when we are playing, sometimes he'll be all into it just to suddenly stop and turn and begin vigorously grooming himself... Only to resume play again.
I guess what I am wanting to know is... With what I said, could his excessive grooming and hair pulling be results of separation anxiety? Boredom? Or do you think it's just because he's new to the apartment and hasn't totally familiarized himself with the place and my routines yet? I am trying my hardest to compensate for my time away with lots of play and attention, but I sometimes wonder if that might not be overstimulating him. Any thoughts, even if they are a bit outside of the box, are welcome. He really is such a sweet cat, and I only want what's best for him.
By the way, here's my baby!