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My husband and I adopted Ash 4 months ago. He was abandoned under a dumpster in a parking lot and lived with a foster family for 3 months before we found him. He is FeLV+ and about 2-3 years old.
Like any cat, he's a terror. He climbs on things, scratches our carpet, and is generally the reason we won't get our security deposit back. None of that is concerning though, as I've lived with cats all my life.
Ash has bonded with my husband. I am acceptable if he's not home but he really wants my husband. He runs to the door as soon as he pulls in the driveway and follows him around the house.
When we are gone during the day, we find no evidence of anxiety when we get home. Nothing knocked over, nothing scratched apart, no eliminating outside of the litter box.
When we get home at the end of the day, he gets dinner (around 6), then cuddle time on the couch (which is really us on one couch and him on the other. He's not really a cuddler but wants to be in the same room). He gets at least a half hour of play time shortly before bed but he's a lazy player. It's very difficult to get him running and jumping for more than a minute at a time. Then he lays down and halfheartedly bats at the toy until he builds up another burst of crazy. Then we fill his dry food bowl before we go up to bed.
He rarely touches it, instead waiting until morning when he can devour his canned food like we haven't fed him in a week. He eats the dry food during the day, so I know its not like he doesn't like it.
The biggest problem we have is overnight. Unfortunately, letting Ash sleep in our room is not an option, since I have a special needs bird who stays in my room.
Ash will be ok for the most part when we get into bed and close the door, but inevitably he will start to cry and scratch at the door. Sometimes its not until 1AM, sometimes its an hour after we went to bed. Usually if one of us goes to the bathroom, or simply makes a noise, he'll quiet down for a little while. I truly believe he wants to know that we havent left.
We have tried using deterrents to keep him away from the door, but he's not afraid of anything except the vaccum. He has plenty of toys around and even a treat dispenser but hes lazy and doesn't even try to use it.
He gets fed wet food twice a day and dry food overnight. We are getting to our wits end here. My husband slept on the couch last night in hopes of keeping him calm. It worked, but I know its only going to make things worse in the long run, especially since my husband leaves for a 2 week training at the end of the month.
My husband is a light sleeper, so he wakes up at the slightest noise. He also has to get up early for work, so being woken up several times through the night is not helpful.
What can we do for Ash to teach him
A) We don't leave at night and always always always come back. He's with us forever now. So we have to fix this or learn to live with it.
B) Crying at the door won't get him attention. This will be the hardest one. My husband will yell or go out simply to get him to stop scratching. I'm working on him. If there's a training your husband forum on here... let me know.
C) Nighttime is for sleeping, preferably for more than 2 or 3 hours at a time.
Sorry its so long, I'm trying to give you as much info as possible. If you have any ideas, tips, tricks, or what have you.... i would greatly appreciate it.
Like any cat, he's a terror. He climbs on things, scratches our carpet, and is generally the reason we won't get our security deposit back. None of that is concerning though, as I've lived with cats all my life.
Ash has bonded with my husband. I am acceptable if he's not home but he really wants my husband. He runs to the door as soon as he pulls in the driveway and follows him around the house.
When we are gone during the day, we find no evidence of anxiety when we get home. Nothing knocked over, nothing scratched apart, no eliminating outside of the litter box.
When we get home at the end of the day, he gets dinner (around 6), then cuddle time on the couch (which is really us on one couch and him on the other. He's not really a cuddler but wants to be in the same room). He gets at least a half hour of play time shortly before bed but he's a lazy player. It's very difficult to get him running and jumping for more than a minute at a time. Then he lays down and halfheartedly bats at the toy until he builds up another burst of crazy. Then we fill his dry food bowl before we go up to bed.
He rarely touches it, instead waiting until morning when he can devour his canned food like we haven't fed him in a week. He eats the dry food during the day, so I know its not like he doesn't like it.
The biggest problem we have is overnight. Unfortunately, letting Ash sleep in our room is not an option, since I have a special needs bird who stays in my room.
Ash will be ok for the most part when we get into bed and close the door, but inevitably he will start to cry and scratch at the door. Sometimes its not until 1AM, sometimes its an hour after we went to bed. Usually if one of us goes to the bathroom, or simply makes a noise, he'll quiet down for a little while. I truly believe he wants to know that we havent left.
We have tried using deterrents to keep him away from the door, but he's not afraid of anything except the vaccum. He has plenty of toys around and even a treat dispenser but hes lazy and doesn't even try to use it.
He gets fed wet food twice a day and dry food overnight. We are getting to our wits end here. My husband slept on the couch last night in hopes of keeping him calm. It worked, but I know its only going to make things worse in the long run, especially since my husband leaves for a 2 week training at the end of the month.
My husband is a light sleeper, so he wakes up at the slightest noise. He also has to get up early for work, so being woken up several times through the night is not helpful.
What can we do for Ash to teach him
A) We don't leave at night and always always always come back. He's with us forever now. So we have to fix this or learn to live with it.
B) Crying at the door won't get him attention. This will be the hardest one. My husband will yell or go out simply to get him to stop scratching. I'm working on him. If there's a training your husband forum on here... let me know.
C) Nighttime is for sleeping, preferably for more than 2 or 3 hours at a time.
Sorry its so long, I'm trying to give you as much info as possible. If you have any ideas, tips, tricks, or what have you.... i would greatly appreciate it.