I've always said the body is but a vessel to hold the 'essence' of who is really there. That is why anyone we love doesn't look like who we remember, what truly was them has moved on. What happens to the body, how we memorialize it, is personal and up to those left behind. Love is spiritual and will always be there. Who we loved will always be near in our memories and our hearts, always be tied to our souls with the bond we formed through love.