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Hi All, I welcomed a kitten into my home and thought he would be a great buddy to my 3 and a half year old cat. I did the introduction all wrong. Now I know.
There was slow but decent progress, until a few weeks in. My big guy chased the kitten, and for the first time he feared him- so much so that he left poop nuggets all over. Poor guy.
It's been mostly a game of cat and mouse ever since. A lot of staring, stalking, chasing and sometimes fur flying with me running a lot of interference. There are times when there's a peace for a couple of hours.
I've tried a cat behaviorist who recommended playtime sessions twice a day with each cat (separately), multiple litter boxes. I have a tall 5' cat tree and a window perch. I would let them meet and provide high value treats to create positive associations and time spent togethert, but as soon it’s over they’re back to their usual behavior.
My big guy is stressed out, acting like a bully, and has adopted a new behavior: spraying all over my house 3 -5 times a week! The little guy is scared and hangs out on my shoulder or hides in one of my sinks. I keep them separated much of the time or I'll never get a thing done, but this is no way for them to live.
This has been going on for 5 months. I'm at my wits end and don’t know what else to do. My family is telling me to rehome one or the other, but I’ve made a commitment to each. I'm also about to take my first weekend trips away, and I'm concerned about the situation. Who in the world is going to care for separated cats?!
I think my big guy’s stress is compounded by the fact that we moved several months before I got the kitten. There is a walking path by my condo and people walk their dogs outside my door. I have a neighbor who lets his cat outside. I can see the footprints in the snow on my patio. He smells it all.
My big guy is 3 and was a singleton. The little guy is now 7 months; he was found alone. Both are neutered.
Do I hire another cat behaviorist or a veterinary behaviorist? I’m not sure the former helped, and the latter is expensive.
Any input is welcome. Thank you!
There was slow but decent progress, until a few weeks in. My big guy chased the kitten, and for the first time he feared him- so much so that he left poop nuggets all over. Poor guy.
It's been mostly a game of cat and mouse ever since. A lot of staring, stalking, chasing and sometimes fur flying with me running a lot of interference. There are times when there's a peace for a couple of hours.
I've tried a cat behaviorist who recommended playtime sessions twice a day with each cat (separately), multiple litter boxes. I have a tall 5' cat tree and a window perch. I would let them meet and provide high value treats to create positive associations and time spent togethert, but as soon it’s over they’re back to their usual behavior.
My big guy is stressed out, acting like a bully, and has adopted a new behavior: spraying all over my house 3 -5 times a week! The little guy is scared and hangs out on my shoulder or hides in one of my sinks. I keep them separated much of the time or I'll never get a thing done, but this is no way for them to live.
This has been going on for 5 months. I'm at my wits end and don’t know what else to do. My family is telling me to rehome one or the other, but I’ve made a commitment to each. I'm also about to take my first weekend trips away, and I'm concerned about the situation. Who in the world is going to care for separated cats?!
I think my big guy’s stress is compounded by the fact that we moved several months before I got the kitten. There is a walking path by my condo and people walk their dogs outside my door. I have a neighbor who lets his cat outside. I can see the footprints in the snow on my patio. He smells it all.
My big guy is 3 and was a singleton. The little guy is now 7 months; he was found alone. Both are neutered.
Do I hire another cat behaviorist or a veterinary behaviorist? I’m not sure the former helped, and the latter is expensive.
Any input is welcome. Thank you!