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((WARNING: This post will take some explaining and back story so I apologize, because I'm new to this site, but I'm grateful to get any advice))
I want to start this off by saying that growing up my family only had indoor/outdoor cats because we lived in a fairly rural area, so we had very independent cats. Some of them were much more affectionate than others, but we still had the occasional loner-cat, so I'm not unaccustomed to cats being reclusive.
Anyway, close to two years ago I ended up saving this cat, whom I named Charlie. His previous owner was a drug addict who would shove huge amounts of food and water at the cat and then literally leave for him alone for a week to 2 weeks at a time. Despite this, when we rescued him, he was incredibly sweet and friendly. Much more so than almost any other cat I've met. When I got him he was around 2 years old (he is purely an indoor cat because we live in a very urban area).
Very shortly after I rescued him I had to move to a new apartment with my friend. My friend originally didn't have any pets, but she had to go home for a month to Kentucky because her Grandfather was dying, and when she returned she had a brand new baby kitten she had rescued from a highway. The kitten was beautiful, but a serious handful, and she would torture Charlie. Charlie's previous owner had him de-clawed and despite the fact that he is half Maine Coon, he never once got mad at the kitten or tried to hurt her. If she bothered him too much, he would usually hiss and just run away. Whenever she calmed down though, he would come over and be a loving parental figure and clean her and all that jazz. When Charlie and I lived with my roommate and her kitten, Charlie was still very affectionate and loving. Sometimes it seemed like Charlie felt the need to compete for our attention. He only ever got upset when we picked him up. (He has always had issues with being picked up. Our vet said he may have been thrown or dropped frequently by his owner)
After 9 months or so we had to leave that apartment because of our negligent landlord and my roommate and I were forced to go our separate ways. Charlie suddenly went from a 2 cat household, to being the only pet like he had been before. I lived with my boyfriend and my boyfriend's roommate for about 3 months while I was trying to search for new apartments and Charlie (whom is accustomed to both my boyfriend and I being his co-owners) was still pretty affectionate. Maybe a little less-so, but nothing seriously significant.
Last spring, I moved into a new larger apartment with this girl Maggie. Since then, Charlie has slowly but surely become less affectionate and I'm not sure why. My roommate, though scatter brained, does not abuse Charlie; and she is rarely at the apartment because she's very busy. My boyfriend is with us nearly 24/7 so Charlie's life hasn't been turned totally upside-down. It's overall just very strange. He whines alot more (he's very vocal), he's alot more pushy and moody and he's much quicker to fake-bite us. He never truly bites, just blandly sort of gnaws and plays. Since the day we got him, he's never been a very active cat, he's a lounger. When we rescued him he was 15 lbs and my vet said he definitely needed to lose around 2 lbs to fit his Maine Coon-sized frame, which he has done since then and he's much healthier.
We feed him well, we give him love but also his space since I know indoor cats can get super-cooped up and we frequently try to play with him to keep him active. He'll still be affectionate from time to time, and he's always really excited to see us when we get home from work, but jeez he's so moody. I was hoping in the next year or so to adopt another cat, hopefully a younger one because Charlie instantly turned into a sweet mother hen around the other kitten. Also, the kitten made him get much more exercise because they would play together, and I think the socialization helps him.
I'm not sure what to do. I know this was extremely long and maybe alot of it wasn't needed for this explanation, but I just want my pets to be happy and kind. I know Charlie is not one of those nasty-by-nature cats because most of the time that I've owned him, he's been sweet and affectionate. He is still the kind of cat who almost 24/7 needs to be in the same room as my boyfriend and I or he gets upset.
I'm sorry. I'm rambling. I just wanted to make sure that his history was properly explained because it's definitely a complicated one. If anyone bothered to read this and has any advice to give, I'd by so happy to hear it.
I want to start this off by saying that growing up my family only had indoor/outdoor cats because we lived in a fairly rural area, so we had very independent cats. Some of them were much more affectionate than others, but we still had the occasional loner-cat, so I'm not unaccustomed to cats being reclusive.
Anyway, close to two years ago I ended up saving this cat, whom I named Charlie. His previous owner was a drug addict who would shove huge amounts of food and water at the cat and then literally leave for him alone for a week to 2 weeks at a time. Despite this, when we rescued him, he was incredibly sweet and friendly. Much more so than almost any other cat I've met. When I got him he was around 2 years old (he is purely an indoor cat because we live in a very urban area).
Very shortly after I rescued him I had to move to a new apartment with my friend. My friend originally didn't have any pets, but she had to go home for a month to Kentucky because her Grandfather was dying, and when she returned she had a brand new baby kitten she had rescued from a highway. The kitten was beautiful, but a serious handful, and she would torture Charlie. Charlie's previous owner had him de-clawed and despite the fact that he is half Maine Coon, he never once got mad at the kitten or tried to hurt her. If she bothered him too much, he would usually hiss and just run away. Whenever she calmed down though, he would come over and be a loving parental figure and clean her and all that jazz. When Charlie and I lived with my roommate and her kitten, Charlie was still very affectionate and loving. Sometimes it seemed like Charlie felt the need to compete for our attention. He only ever got upset when we picked him up. (He has always had issues with being picked up. Our vet said he may have been thrown or dropped frequently by his owner)
After 9 months or so we had to leave that apartment because of our negligent landlord and my roommate and I were forced to go our separate ways. Charlie suddenly went from a 2 cat household, to being the only pet like he had been before. I lived with my boyfriend and my boyfriend's roommate for about 3 months while I was trying to search for new apartments and Charlie (whom is accustomed to both my boyfriend and I being his co-owners) was still pretty affectionate. Maybe a little less-so, but nothing seriously significant.
Last spring, I moved into a new larger apartment with this girl Maggie. Since then, Charlie has slowly but surely become less affectionate and I'm not sure why. My roommate, though scatter brained, does not abuse Charlie; and she is rarely at the apartment because she's very busy. My boyfriend is with us nearly 24/7 so Charlie's life hasn't been turned totally upside-down. It's overall just very strange. He whines alot more (he's very vocal), he's alot more pushy and moody and he's much quicker to fake-bite us. He never truly bites, just blandly sort of gnaws and plays. Since the day we got him, he's never been a very active cat, he's a lounger. When we rescued him he was 15 lbs and my vet said he definitely needed to lose around 2 lbs to fit his Maine Coon-sized frame, which he has done since then and he's much healthier.
We feed him well, we give him love but also his space since I know indoor cats can get super-cooped up and we frequently try to play with him to keep him active. He'll still be affectionate from time to time, and he's always really excited to see us when we get home from work, but jeez he's so moody. I was hoping in the next year or so to adopt another cat, hopefully a younger one because Charlie instantly turned into a sweet mother hen around the other kitten. Also, the kitten made him get much more exercise because they would play together, and I think the socialization helps him.
I'm not sure what to do. I know this was extremely long and maybe alot of it wasn't needed for this explanation, but I just want my pets to be happy and kind. I know Charlie is not one of those nasty-by-nature cats because most of the time that I've owned him, he's been sweet and affectionate. He is still the kind of cat who almost 24/7 needs to be in the same room as my boyfriend and I or he gets upset.
I'm sorry. I'm rambling. I just wanted to make sure that his history was properly explained because it's definitely a complicated one. If anyone bothered to read this and has any advice to give, I'd by so happy to hear it.