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Thanks everyone, she is coming over in a bit. I am not sure how to act...its so strange when people don't realize they are screwing up their lives. Not to mention the impact it has on their children.
Yes, she is starting counselling on Thursday and she is looking forward to it.Originally Posted by Rosiemac
I think the first step is to get her to see a counsellor Nat?.
That is a start.Originally Posted by Trouts mom
Yes, she is starting counselling on Thursday and she is looking forward to it.
I totally agree with this. She does need to hit rock bottom. I did after my mom died and it took 8 months for me to wake up and realize that I couldn't keep going on how I was. I still have times where I am depressed, but it is based on what is going on currently and does not linger.Originally Posted by Snake_Lady
That is a start.
My mention of supporting her....its amazing what any kind of support can mean to a person in need. I know its difficult, especially when outsiders can plainly see what the issues are but the person can't or won't.
Support can come in very simplistic forms: being there for her to talk to if she wants, knowing that you will help her if you can, knowing that she's loved and cared for.
I'm not saying you do this, but some people assume their love and care is apparant, and never say "i love you" or "you are a great person". It is amazing what effect those simple words can do.
Sometimes just knowing that someone is there for you in your times of need, is all the support you can give.
Continued for your sister, I do hope the couselling will help her emotional wellbeing. And some continued for you and the rest of the family.... it is so hard to watch someone we love, self destruct.
She get totally defensive. Her whole life has been lived in a strange manner. And if any of us in the family say anything she doesn't like, she doesn't talk to us for months (or even years in some cases). She is very much in denial. We try to tell her that this guy she is pining over is stringing her along...etc..and she stills thinks he is not and that he loves her and just needs time.Originally Posted by Duchess15
Does she get really defensive at everything you say? If she does, that is a huge sign of denial and only she will be able to get out once she in no longer blinded by what she believes.
Oh my goodness, i wonder how much their witnessing with your sister and this bloke to say that?!Originally Posted by Trouts mom
Last night my neices asked me who they would live with if their parents diedThey are 4 and 9 years old