Hi everyone, I am so glad I found this site, and I hope someone has experienced this problem or has advice that will work. I am so sorry it is so long.
I lost one of my babies a year ago, leaving my other baby very sad and without his brother. I call them babies, Flopple, who died was 7, and Bisk is 6. About 6 months ago I bought a kitten for Bisk, it took a day or two, but before I knew it they were in love. Bisk took Tyron (the baby) under his paw and loved him, they played, gave him baths, ect. 4 weeks ago I took Tyron to get neutered. I brought him home; let him out, everything seemed ok so I went back to work. I got home that night and I saw fur all over. The kitten was shaking and scared to death, and the older cat immediately attacked him while I was standing there. It was horrible because the kitten was sore and obviously this had been going on all day. I felt horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So I immediately picked up the baby and took him in my room, tried to make him feel better. I was so mad at my older cat, however, I loved with him after to show him everything will be ok. I kept them separated, only communicating under the door for a few days as the vet suggested. Every time I tried to “introduce” them again, the older cat would attack him as if he was trying to kill him. The kitten never fights back. Finally, one day I saw them playing under the door and touching noises, I was so happy. I let the older cat in. Now the kitten (with good reason) is spitting, hissing, and growling, whenever the older cat when he tries’s to sniff him. The older cats has finally chilled out a little it, but when the kitten acts this way, the fight is on. It has been 4 weeks, they are still fighting. I am beside myself; very sad and so afraid I am going to have to get rid of the kitten, whom I fell in love with. The other bad part is, I have given up my bed room for this kitten so he feels safe (this is his favorite room) plus the vets (all three I have asked) told me it was best not to move the kitten from a room I took him to “save’ him and left him in for awhile. I cannot sleep in there because I have the litter box, food and everything in there, I simply cannot sleep with the litter in there. I have to spread my love around, spending time in each room with each cat, very time consuming. I am so tired and getting very frustrated. One vet told me this could be 6 months to a year!! If there’s anyone that has been through this or knows of someone, can you please tell me what he or she did? 2of the vets told me to spray them with water (because we all know you cannot spank a cat)when they fight or look like they are going to fight. Then I read online it is not right to do that, it makes things worse. It is one of those cases where you research so much everyone says something different. The vets have told me this is not unusual however anyone I talk with has never had it happen, including me in the past.
Thanks Denise
I lost one of my babies a year ago, leaving my other baby very sad and without his brother. I call them babies, Flopple, who died was 7, and Bisk is 6. About 6 months ago I bought a kitten for Bisk, it took a day or two, but before I knew it they were in love. Bisk took Tyron (the baby) under his paw and loved him, they played, gave him baths, ect. 4 weeks ago I took Tyron to get neutered. I brought him home; let him out, everything seemed ok so I went back to work. I got home that night and I saw fur all over. The kitten was shaking and scared to death, and the older cat immediately attacked him while I was standing there. It was horrible because the kitten was sore and obviously this had been going on all day. I felt horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So I immediately picked up the baby and took him in my room, tried to make him feel better. I was so mad at my older cat, however, I loved with him after to show him everything will be ok. I kept them separated, only communicating under the door for a few days as the vet suggested. Every time I tried to “introduce” them again, the older cat would attack him as if he was trying to kill him. The kitten never fights back. Finally, one day I saw them playing under the door and touching noises, I was so happy. I let the older cat in. Now the kitten (with good reason) is spitting, hissing, and growling, whenever the older cat when he tries’s to sniff him. The older cats has finally chilled out a little it, but when the kitten acts this way, the fight is on. It has been 4 weeks, they are still fighting. I am beside myself; very sad and so afraid I am going to have to get rid of the kitten, whom I fell in love with. The other bad part is, I have given up my bed room for this kitten so he feels safe (this is his favorite room) plus the vets (all three I have asked) told me it was best not to move the kitten from a room I took him to “save’ him and left him in for awhile. I cannot sleep in there because I have the litter box, food and everything in there, I simply cannot sleep with the litter in there. I have to spread my love around, spending time in each room with each cat, very time consuming. I am so tired and getting very frustrated. One vet told me this could be 6 months to a year!! If there’s anyone that has been through this or knows of someone, can you please tell me what he or she did? 2of the vets told me to spray them with water (because we all know you cannot spank a cat)when they fight or look like they are going to fight. Then I read online it is not right to do that, it makes things worse. It is one of those cases where you research so much everyone says something different. The vets have told me this is not unusual however anyone I talk with has never had it happen, including me in the past.
Thanks Denise