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aight so heres the deal, i might be over reacting to all this we are first time cat owners and have never had to do the whole new cat process, anyhow like i said heres the deal. me and my sister got our mum a cat for her birthday a couple o days ago. it was my sisters idea whose reckless n frivolous in her purchases, you want proof she has two huskies, a dingo and used to have mice til one of the huskies got into the room with the mice and killed them all, she also wants a cat of her own but thank god her boyf doesnt like cats so hes said no. needless to say, shes not very responsible. anyways she wanted to get the cat i thought it wasnt a great idea, yada yada, shes stubborn and bought the cat, and not from a very good petshop either this place is not very great. she didnt even tell our mum that the cat was from this place, because when i told her she got very mad. anyways we buy the cat we bring him home, we give him a seperate room just like all the articles i read told us to do. idk if this is significant but my sister left the door open and the existing cat wondered in, saw him, immediately yowled n hissed. since then my sister has been constantly saying dumb shit like "lets just let her look at him" or "im just gonna leave the door open a crack for her to see him". this was all during his first night here. i told her no, she didnt listen to me, i got mad because i thought she could have possibly been sabotaging the chances of our resident cat and new cat getting along. i have a feeling i am just being impatient or stupid since hes been here almost a week which from what ive read is usually the minimum amount of time for a cat to adjust, both new cat in a new home or getting used to the scent of a new cat for the resident cat. he has adjusted pretty well to his new home, on his second night after coming home from my mum n sisters birthday dinner, i went to his room and he came out immediately to greet me, a massive departure of his behaviour from the previous day, hiding under the bed and not eating. we've been letting him out his room whenever the existing cat goes outside, he has adjusted to this area too fairly quickly and has learned to meow, so whenever hes in his room and the other cat is inside he meows wanting to come out. if we were to let him out that would stress her out even more than she already is. im extremely worried about her. usually she isnt this mad but she can be a rather massive grump about things but can also be very affectionate when she wants to be. i love her but rn she hates me more than i can put into words. couple days ago, my mum wanted to try having them on either side of the door, i said that was a terrible idea, he hasnt been here long enough for her to get used to him, but she insisted and i had to give in because whenever my mum gets mad she gets insanely angry shes got goddam anger issues, i swear. so we try it ofc she is yowlin n hissing, so then mum thinks of its an even better idea if we put her directly in the room with him in the cage. i protest profusely but im not successful at all. we do it she is extremely stressed out she hissing n all and desperate to get out. we both end up watching vids on youtube about introducing cats and all have the same points and say to do the same things, i told my mum, see? this is what we gotta do its gotta be slow and the tie between getting used to him and sitting on either side of the door needs to be gradual and have massive amounts of time in between. she doesnt understand and says, yeah, we did that. no we fricken didnt! we put them together from outside the door to into the same room within a matter of minutes!! she is not a stupid person. she is smart enough to know what i meant, she just can never admit when she might be in the wrong. so ive taken charge over taking care of both cats, even tho he is her cat. the most she does is feed the resident cat in the morning and thats it. so, so far she is still angry. shes angry over him shes angry at me (probably because i spend the most time with him) reckon she must be jealous or something, im worried what my mum and sister have done has jeopardised our chances of them being friendly n comfortable with each other, he doesnt seem to have a problem tbh its just her. mum reckons she afraid of him, hes a kitten for gods sake, y would she be afraid of him she could bloody kill him if she had half a mind and im sure shes does. cats are just territorial, some rando cat in her house? ofc she gone be mad. hes a good boy, love him quite a bit, but she was our first cat and we love her just as much, its making me really sad to think she might be jealous or upset over this and what if this is forever now? i dont want her to think this is gonna be regular behaviour for her, i really REALLY dont. ive tried to do the towel rubbing thing, bringing her food closer n whatnot but her mood hasnt lifted. but maybe i am just being impatient i mean it has only been less than a whole week, i just dont want her so angry with me, has anyone else experienced their cats being annoyed with yourself because of a new cat? please help.