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I got a spayed female cat who is about one year old. I named her Cinder due to her all black appearance. Although I love her, she did not turn out to be the lap cat that I was so hoping she would be. Since she often seemed to be bored, I figured I'd kill two birds with one stone by getting her a play mate, but also make sure the new cat was an affectionate lap cat. I thought a kitten might be really nice since they tend to imprint on their owners at a young age and become super attached.
Well before I could get another cat, some friends of mine surprised me with an adorable little six week old fluff ball who I named Nutmeg. She's perfect! She sleeps with me every night, and will often sit in my lap as I use the computer or read. Waking up to kitty licks in the morning is one of the best experiences I've ever had. Cinder HATES her though. I've had the kitten for almost two months now, and although the situation has settled down quite a bit from what it was at first, they remain mortal enemies.
I have to admit that at first I almost stopped paying attention to Cinder. Then I got annoyed with her stubbornness and began to snap my fingers and loudly say no every time she hissed. This only caused Cinder to begin fearing me which is not what I wanted. Now I've stopped snapping and saying no and begun to pay more attention to her and she no longer acts afraid around me, but she still hates Nutmeg.
I've given them separate food and water now since feeding time has been a point of contention since day one. I had hoped that forcing them to share and in so doing experience each other's scents and company would speed up the process but that didn't work. I also have begun trying to supervise them both being close to each other while I speak softly to and pet Cinder in an attempt to assure her that everything is okay.
Most recently, I saw Nutmeg chase Cinder upstairs as she hissed and ran. She's effectively been cowed and defeated by an invader in her own territory, and I don't know if the situation is even salvageable anymore. :'( Any advice is welcome. I love them both and don't want to choose between them.
Well before I could get another cat, some friends of mine surprised me with an adorable little six week old fluff ball who I named Nutmeg. She's perfect! She sleeps with me every night, and will often sit in my lap as I use the computer or read. Waking up to kitty licks in the morning is one of the best experiences I've ever had. Cinder HATES her though. I've had the kitten for almost two months now, and although the situation has settled down quite a bit from what it was at first, they remain mortal enemies.
I have to admit that at first I almost stopped paying attention to Cinder. Then I got annoyed with her stubbornness and began to snap my fingers and loudly say no every time she hissed. This only caused Cinder to begin fearing me which is not what I wanted. Now I've stopped snapping and saying no and begun to pay more attention to her and she no longer acts afraid around me, but she still hates Nutmeg.
I've given them separate food and water now since feeding time has been a point of contention since day one. I had hoped that forcing them to share and in so doing experience each other's scents and company would speed up the process but that didn't work. I also have begun trying to supervise them both being close to each other while I speak softly to and pet Cinder in an attempt to assure her that everything is okay.
Most recently, I saw Nutmeg chase Cinder upstairs as she hissed and ran. She's effectively been cowed and defeated by an invader in her own territory, and I don't know if the situation is even salvageable anymore. :'( Any advice is welcome. I love them both and don't want to choose between them.