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Hi everyone!
I'm hoping to get some advice. I read the article about cat introductions and wanted to follow up here for help.
I have a semi-feral (spayed from a previous resident doing a TNR) that adopted me a little over 9 years ago. She is 12 now. I fed, sheltered, played, petted her, etc. for 9 years. She had 2 houses on my back porch, slept in them, and our bond became very strong. She refused to live in the apartment. I had to move, so I trapped her and brought her with me. She is extremely affectionate with me, we are very close.
I had 2 cats already that knew her through the back door and there were no fights. Travis, about 3.5, and Gabby, who is about 8. At the old place, Gabby was trying to be dominant towards Travis and instigated fights sometimes. Travis mostly took the abuse until he couldn't stand it anymore, and would corner her and do the intimidation stare, causing Gabby to scream and freak out.
Fast forward to my new apartment. Travis did a 180 and is now a bully, Gabby is just mellow for the most part. Personality swap!
Factor in Mute, my semi-feral. She is very docile with me, and with Travis and Gabby. I put Mute in the dining room as her base camp, with litter box, food, water, toys, blanket and a French door with windows (closed) so everyone can see and smell each other. Mute likes to hang out behind some Ikea cabinets I have out. I did a fast intro as everyone was getting along fine and there were no issues, but about two weeks later, Travis decided to pounce all over Mute and attack her, which in turn caused Gabby to attack him. This happened constantly.
I sent Travis and Gabby to my mom's house for a week to let Mute explore all she wanted. she only spent time in the dining room and the living room, cuddling with me. The idea was to make sure she knows our bond is still very strong, and let her have time to digest that she is in new surroundings inside and is well loved. Shockingly, her transition to living inside was no problem! She used the litter box immediately, I was so proud and happy that it wasn't an issue for her.
After a week, Gabby & Travis came back home. I separated them all again, with Mute in the dining room again. Travis is a big boy and knows there is food in the DR and muscled his way in and went after Mute.
I plan to get an eye lock for the DR door so he can't do that anymore, but they can touch noses and experience each other's scents.
Right now, Mute only peeks out of the window once or twice a day and stays behind the Ikea cabinets on the window sill and only comes out to eat and use the litter box and it breaks my heart! Because of Travis, she is too scared to even come out to play with me when I sit in the DR with the door closed.
Do I just need to keep this up and give it time? Am I doing this right? Poor Mute just wants to be friends with my other 2, she's a very well mannered cat, and when she's just with me I know she is content and happy. Purrs, rolls around, gets tons of petting and massages, plays and gets treats.
I also got some Jackson Galaxy Spirit Essences and Travis seems to be immune to this as well as Feliway! I got this pack, but ordered Safe Space to add in to it, which I will when it arrives.
http://www.spiritessences.com/product-p/ultimate-peacemaker.htm
Any advice, suggestions, thoughts? I would really appreciate any help or a sanity check on this! Thanks so much,
Tracy
I'm hoping to get some advice. I read the article about cat introductions and wanted to follow up here for help.
I have a semi-feral (spayed from a previous resident doing a TNR) that adopted me a little over 9 years ago. She is 12 now. I fed, sheltered, played, petted her, etc. for 9 years. She had 2 houses on my back porch, slept in them, and our bond became very strong. She refused to live in the apartment. I had to move, so I trapped her and brought her with me. She is extremely affectionate with me, we are very close.
I had 2 cats already that knew her through the back door and there were no fights. Travis, about 3.5, and Gabby, who is about 8. At the old place, Gabby was trying to be dominant towards Travis and instigated fights sometimes. Travis mostly took the abuse until he couldn't stand it anymore, and would corner her and do the intimidation stare, causing Gabby to scream and freak out.
Fast forward to my new apartment. Travis did a 180 and is now a bully, Gabby is just mellow for the most part. Personality swap!
Factor in Mute, my semi-feral. She is very docile with me, and with Travis and Gabby. I put Mute in the dining room as her base camp, with litter box, food, water, toys, blanket and a French door with windows (closed) so everyone can see and smell each other. Mute likes to hang out behind some Ikea cabinets I have out. I did a fast intro as everyone was getting along fine and there were no issues, but about two weeks later, Travis decided to pounce all over Mute and attack her, which in turn caused Gabby to attack him. This happened constantly.
I sent Travis and Gabby to my mom's house for a week to let Mute explore all she wanted. she only spent time in the dining room and the living room, cuddling with me. The idea was to make sure she knows our bond is still very strong, and let her have time to digest that she is in new surroundings inside and is well loved. Shockingly, her transition to living inside was no problem! She used the litter box immediately, I was so proud and happy that it wasn't an issue for her.
After a week, Gabby & Travis came back home. I separated them all again, with Mute in the dining room again. Travis is a big boy and knows there is food in the DR and muscled his way in and went after Mute.
I plan to get an eye lock for the DR door so he can't do that anymore, but they can touch noses and experience each other's scents.
Right now, Mute only peeks out of the window once or twice a day and stays behind the Ikea cabinets on the window sill and only comes out to eat and use the litter box and it breaks my heart! Because of Travis, she is too scared to even come out to play with me when I sit in the DR with the door closed.
Do I just need to keep this up and give it time? Am I doing this right? Poor Mute just wants to be friends with my other 2, she's a very well mannered cat, and when she's just with me I know she is content and happy. Purrs, rolls around, gets tons of petting and massages, plays and gets treats.
I also got some Jackson Galaxy Spirit Essences and Travis seems to be immune to this as well as Feliway! I got this pack, but ordered Safe Space to add in to it, which I will when it arrives.
http://www.spiritessences.com/product-p/ultimate-peacemaker.htm
Any advice, suggestions, thoughts? I would really appreciate any help or a sanity check on this! Thanks so much,
Tracy
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