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Does Dr. Phil say that? I've never watched him - well that's not entirely true - I think I tuned in once and hubby and I neither one could stand him. That's one thing we agreed on.
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Our 31st Anniversary
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Cool Linda!...Originally Posted by Yosemite
Seriously, I have a few things I think contribute to a long and happy marriage:
1. Neither of us ever says anything in anger that cannot be taken back, i.e., even if he is really upset or mad about something, he will say, "Honey, I can't talk about it right now, I need to calm down". Neither of us has ever sworn at or called the other one a nasty name in 32 years.
2. Never take each other for granted. I've been cooking for him for 32 years (and I mean cooking since I don't used prepared or processed foods and make everything from scratch), yet it is rare for him to sit down to a meal and not say thank you for making a nice dinner even after all these years. In return I always thank him for fixing things on my car and doing any little errands for me. I always let him know he's appreciated.
3. If you have a difference of opinion and it isn't earth-shatteringly important, agree to disagree. It isn't necessary to be "right" and it's OK to feel differently about something even though you are a couple. Hubby does like to argue until he can get me to agree with him sometimes. I just listen and nod and at the end of his speil I tell him I appreciate that he feels differently than I do about the situation, but as long as nobody gets hurt or dies, it's not worth fighting/arguing about.
Those will at least get you off to a good start.
My serious congratulations as always my friend!
Why not? You mean you don't like pompous, know-it-all type men?Originally Posted by Yosemite
Does Dr. Phil say that? I've never watched him - well that's not entirely true - I think I tuned in once and hubby and I neither one could stand him. That's one thing we agreed on.
