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Tell. Tell tell. if you dont Brad will feel worse that you didn't. becaue he WILL run into him. Tell.
I agree with this!! You don't have to be explicid about what you did with your ex years ago in private... Just crazy ex boyfriend is sufficient enough.Originally Posted by jlutgendorf
I agree with telling him in a way that let's him know you're not pleased with the discovery. "oh my god, you won't believe who moved in across the street from us! My crazy exboyfriend! Now i'm gonna have to make sure to avoid him when go out front, he creeps me out . . . blah blah blah"
I think if you phrase it that way (which is also truthful) then your boyfriend should have no reason to be jealous. He should be concerned FOR you, not concerned about what you may do!
~Julia
I have to agree with Kaleetha! It is YOUR private past and between you and God, IMO!Originally Posted by Kaleetha
I agree with jlutgendorf... however (this is something I wish I'd learned way earlier) your private past is your private past, no one and nothing should make you uncomfortable talking to your partner. If you choose to leave, er, certain things out, I think that is absolutely your choice.
Good luck with this situation!
Thanks, but I'm not that special Fwan. I've got over 10 years on guys your age, so I sure hope I'm wiser than them.Originally Posted by fwan
Sorry to butt in, Wyan you sound so much wiser than the guys around my age, i wish they were like you
Soooo... how did it go?Originally Posted by jugen
Ok, I am going to let him in on this........ I hope he doesn't get all freaked out...
I think this is a well-worded version of what I was going to say. I think you should tell him 'ex-boyfriend', but there is no need whatsoever to delve into just how intimate the relationship was or wasn't.Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
I've read some interesting points about honesty in the past. I don't think being "openly honest" means you should open up every event ahead of time that might make your significant other uncomfortable and that seems to be the gist of what I've learned from what I read. It's not really your husband's business whether that old boyfriend was your first since it happened in the past and it is guaranteed to make hubby uncomfortable.
That this guy was your first isn't really relative to your husband's daily life, unless of course the guy starts a conversation about it. I think your husband should be on a need-to-know basis. If I was your husband, I wouldn't want to know about this guy either unless it came up. Then, I would only want to know what was relevant to what came up. You not liking this guy for being a little "off" does not have to include that you were intimate with him in my opinion, unless it's absolutely necessary info.
Ive been out with men who are 25 or so and their mentality is still like 15.Originally Posted by Hydroaxe
Thanks, but I'm not that special Fwan. I've got over 10 years on guys your age, so I sure hope I'm wiser than them.
Originally Posted by Phenomsmom
I would have to say be honest. But also tell Brad that he need not worry about anything because he is the one you want. Then try not to talk to the ex or talk to Brad aobut the ex at all.