My sister returned home not long ago, and informed me that whilst in town she bumped into my best friend of 20 years...and beside her was a new fella.
My best friend at the moment is also married, but due to a few problems recently they decided to split up, and her husband is now living with his mum, leaving her to look after their two young children.
A few weeks ago, she told me that she had met someone at work, and that he was a nice guy. To me at that time, I thought they were just being friendly..as people at work normally are, they did often meet up too. Me, being daft and not seeing straight through her, I didn't realise that she was dating him behind her husband's back!
I only found out today that she and this guy have now hooked up properly. But what I don't understand is why didn't she want to tell me all of this stuff when it happened, instead of weeks afterwards? It was only last week I found out about her husband leaving too.....
Am I not worthy of being her best friend anymore? Why do I always find out these things last after she has told other people first?
I do feel rather upset about this, she didn't tell me all of these things until a few weeks after they all happened, and when I spoke to her, she told me other people knew first before me! I do feel hurt, I thought she was supposed to me my best friend, and that she tells me these things when they happen..I normally tell her things like that straight away. Am I being selfish?
Advice would be great! Thanks guys...
My best friend at the moment is also married, but due to a few problems recently they decided to split up, and her husband is now living with his mum, leaving her to look after their two young children.
A few weeks ago, she told me that she had met someone at work, and that he was a nice guy. To me at that time, I thought they were just being friendly..as people at work normally are, they did often meet up too. Me, being daft and not seeing straight through her, I didn't realise that she was dating him behind her husband's back!
I only found out today that she and this guy have now hooked up properly. But what I don't understand is why didn't she want to tell me all of this stuff when it happened, instead of weeks afterwards? It was only last week I found out about her husband leaving too.....
Am I not worthy of being her best friend anymore? Why do I always find out these things last after she has told other people first?
I do feel rather upset about this, she didn't tell me all of these things until a few weeks after they all happened, and when I spoke to her, she told me other people knew first before me! I do feel hurt, I thought she was supposed to me my best friend, and that she tells me these things when they happen..I normally tell her things like that straight away. Am I being selfish?
Advice would be great! Thanks guys...