Hi all,
My cat just turned 1. He had quite a bad past. I got him really young from a dodgy shelter and he was malnourished, had a bad URI and ringworm. It took about 3 months of round the clock care before he was back to good health and eating normally. He isn't a very affectionate kitty - he does love to play and occasionally purrs for my partner. But in saying that we can pick him up, and even if he wants to get down he would never hiss or bite us.
Whenever someone else comes into the house he becomes very aggressive. I can tell that he is scared, because the more people that come over the worse he gets. If people are standing up he seems to be okay - very curious about them. He sniffs them and tries to climb up their legs to sniff further.
As soon as they sit down he will jump up onto their lap or stand really close to them and start hissing. If they dont back down or leave he will swipe, bite, and really go crazy. God forbid if they try to touch him or even look at him.
I've tried to look up this behaviour but all i can seem to find is 'fear aggression' where cats get scared when they can't escape, and certain tips to help this such as making sure they have hiding places, not making a person approach them etc. The problem is, he always approaches the stranger, they pay no attention to him. Even people he has met over and over its the same reaction. He can easily run into one of the bedrooms (in fact when we lock him away when people are over after his bad behaviour he starts to cry).
I'm really not sure how to handle this. I'm nervous about having people over, especially children, and i can't invite people over and make them stand up.
Does anyone have any tips to help me at all? Or anything that can help to relax him?
Thanks so much!
My cat just turned 1. He had quite a bad past. I got him really young from a dodgy shelter and he was malnourished, had a bad URI and ringworm. It took about 3 months of round the clock care before he was back to good health and eating normally. He isn't a very affectionate kitty - he does love to play and occasionally purrs for my partner. But in saying that we can pick him up, and even if he wants to get down he would never hiss or bite us.
Whenever someone else comes into the house he becomes very aggressive. I can tell that he is scared, because the more people that come over the worse he gets. If people are standing up he seems to be okay - very curious about them. He sniffs them and tries to climb up their legs to sniff further.
As soon as they sit down he will jump up onto their lap or stand really close to them and start hissing. If they dont back down or leave he will swipe, bite, and really go crazy. God forbid if they try to touch him or even look at him.
I've tried to look up this behaviour but all i can seem to find is 'fear aggression' where cats get scared when they can't escape, and certain tips to help this such as making sure they have hiding places, not making a person approach them etc. The problem is, he always approaches the stranger, they pay no attention to him. Even people he has met over and over its the same reaction. He can easily run into one of the bedrooms (in fact when we lock him away when people are over after his bad behaviour he starts to cry).
I'm really not sure how to handle this. I'm nervous about having people over, especially children, and i can't invite people over and make them stand up.
Does anyone have any tips to help me at all? Or anything that can help to relax him?
Thanks so much!