Hello I'm Michael and I Adopted a ~1 yr old DSH female from a shelter 2 weeks ago. This cat I was told had socialization problems as a kitten and had already been returned once due to behavior. But the adoption agent assured me that the cat was now well socialized and it was the last owners fault (which it sounded like it was) that she was returned.
So about me. I am a Senior in college and I live by myself in a one bedroom apartment (8-9 100 sqft). I brought her home and put her in the bathroom until I could finish setting up the house. She wouldn't come out of the traveling cage with me in there so I left and came back in a few min after setting some stuff up and she had left the cage and was in the tub. I picked her up and petted her for awhile (with all the talking in a soothing voice and I even tried to give her a treat at the end, which she refused). The next time I cam in she was hiding under the commode's water line. At this point the house was setup and I let her out.
The first thing she did was go hide under my chest of drawers. I moved the food, water, and litter box to my bedroom, (where she was) and would pet her some (she would allow me to pet her but she wouldn't come out and would stay pressed back against the back wall. This went on for a couple of days until she decided under the bed was better. About the third day she would come out from under the bed while I was asleep and meow at me from on top of my dresser, I would wake up and she would go back under the bed. After a full week of this (her not coming out from under the bed) I asked some friends that are married, older, and have had cats for over 10 years what to do and they suggested, and helped me, block the under part of the bed and the dresser. This made the cat hide where I could get to her. Every day I have gone slowly and without making much noise and picked her up (she will hiss when I fist come up but as long as i go slow will let me pet her where she is hiding) after petting her a little I will pick her up onto my lap. She gets her claws out to try to resist (grab onto the shelf) as I do this but will normally let me get her onto my lap. (although I have a nice scratch from where she used my hand as a launching platform to get back to the shelf when I tried to pick her up directly instead of going through the sitting routine first) I would then pet her on my lap until she starts purring and then something inevitability catches my attention for a second and the cat escapes off of my lap and looks for a hiding space again. This has gone on every day this week and I have seen no Improvement from her. Every time she see's me she run's away. She has never once come up to me upon her own free will. I am a college student, not a full time cat socialization trainer. I don't know what to do. I'm starting to feel more like a cat socialization trainer than a happy cat owner. I'm trying to figure out whether to ask the shelter if I can trade for a different cat or what are my options.
So about me. I am a Senior in college and I live by myself in a one bedroom apartment (8-9 100 sqft). I brought her home and put her in the bathroom until I could finish setting up the house. She wouldn't come out of the traveling cage with me in there so I left and came back in a few min after setting some stuff up and she had left the cage and was in the tub. I picked her up and petted her for awhile (with all the talking in a soothing voice and I even tried to give her a treat at the end, which she refused). The next time I cam in she was hiding under the commode's water line. At this point the house was setup and I let her out.
The first thing she did was go hide under my chest of drawers. I moved the food, water, and litter box to my bedroom, (where she was) and would pet her some (she would allow me to pet her but she wouldn't come out and would stay pressed back against the back wall. This went on for a couple of days until she decided under the bed was better. About the third day she would come out from under the bed while I was asleep and meow at me from on top of my dresser, I would wake up and she would go back under the bed. After a full week of this (her not coming out from under the bed) I asked some friends that are married, older, and have had cats for over 10 years what to do and they suggested, and helped me, block the under part of the bed and the dresser. This made the cat hide where I could get to her. Every day I have gone slowly and without making much noise and picked her up (she will hiss when I fist come up but as long as i go slow will let me pet her where she is hiding) after petting her a little I will pick her up onto my lap. She gets her claws out to try to resist (grab onto the shelf) as I do this but will normally let me get her onto my lap. (although I have a nice scratch from where she used my hand as a launching platform to get back to the shelf when I tried to pick her up directly instead of going through the sitting routine first) I would then pet her on my lap until she starts purring and then something inevitability catches my attention for a second and the cat escapes off of my lap and looks for a hiding space again. This has gone on every day this week and I have seen no Improvement from her. Every time she see's me she run's away. She has never once come up to me upon her own free will. I am a college student, not a full time cat socialization trainer. I don't know what to do. I'm starting to feel more like a cat socialization trainer than a happy cat owner. I'm trying to figure out whether to ask the shelter if I can trade for a different cat or what are my options.