I’m having a hard time and just looking for hope I guess. I have an 8 year old female (Evie), who is very sweet and affectionate and gets very sad when not getting enough attention. I contemplated getting her a friend her whole life and finally committed last week, though a new kitten was probably more for me than her at this point. We picked up a 3mo old boy (Finn) on Tuesday, and it has been horrible.
He has very bad separation anxiety having come from a house full of cats and dogs. He never stops crying. The only thing that makes him happy is Evie, but she is not a fan of him (yet, I hope). I have followed all the room separation/scent swapping etc and Jackson Galaxy guides, but Finn cries and scratches the door endlessly. He escapes and makes a b-line for Evie. She hisses at him but fortunately doesn’t attack just leaves the room. There has been no improvements or curiosity from Evie. She won’t even eat on the other side of his door. So Finn just cries and cries because he wants a feline friend. He is very cute and sociable and just wants cuddles. It makes it hard to keep giving Evie extra attention because I just be with Finn so he’ll stop crying. I have barely slept all week. I am just having major regrets. Evie was not like this at all at a kitten and happily settled in on the first night. She was happy enough I feel like I have ruined all of our lives including Finn’s who is not getting the companionship he needs. I know I just need to be patient but I am already considering re-homing him which i feel so guilty. Evie is not eating as much where she usually has a massive appetite. Finn is not very good at grooming himself and stinks. Please tell me it will get better. At what point do I give up.
He has very bad separation anxiety having come from a house full of cats and dogs. He never stops crying. The only thing that makes him happy is Evie, but she is not a fan of him (yet, I hope). I have followed all the room separation/scent swapping etc and Jackson Galaxy guides, but Finn cries and scratches the door endlessly. He escapes and makes a b-line for Evie. She hisses at him but fortunately doesn’t attack just leaves the room. There has been no improvements or curiosity from Evie. She won’t even eat on the other side of his door. So Finn just cries and cries because he wants a feline friend. He is very cute and sociable and just wants cuddles. It makes it hard to keep giving Evie extra attention because I just be with Finn so he’ll stop crying. I have barely slept all week. I am just having major regrets. Evie was not like this at all at a kitten and happily settled in on the first night. She was happy enough I feel like I have ruined all of our lives including Finn’s who is not getting the companionship he needs. I know I just need to be patient but I am already considering re-homing him which i feel so guilty. Evie is not eating as much where she usually has a massive appetite. Finn is not very good at grooming himself and stinks. Please tell me it will get better. At what point do I give up.