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About two months ago I adopted Roger (3yo male) as a friend to my resident cat Cooper (9yo male) after Cooper's companion kitty passed away. Cooper is an extremely cuddly, mellow, low energy kitty who loves cuddling with humans and other cats. At the shelter, Roger was extremely mellow, easygoing, cuddly and low energy so he seemed like the perfect match for Cooper. Roger was a recently neutered friendly stray kitty. At first, everything was going perfectly. I kept them separate at first and did slow intros, but they pretty immediately hit it off. Neither of them hissed or growled at the other even once, and they would even sleep next to eachother. I couldn't believe how great things were going! About a month in, Roger started to randomly lunge at Cooper, go straight for his neck and try to mount him. Cooper would cry out and try to get away, and if I don't intervene it becomes a full fight with fur flying. At first this only happened a few times, but now it happens everyday probably 5 times a day, and I have to separate them whenever it happens. I usually am able to intervene before he actually attacks Cooper, but it's so exhausting and heartbreaking, and I'm sure it's stressing out Cooper, and stressing out Roger to have to stay in the bathroom when this happens. The bathroom is his homebase with litterbox, water, scratchpad, and small cat tree, but I hate keeping him in there, esp when I have to leave the house. I live in a loft open space apartment, so unfortunately the bathroom is the only place I can separate them.
They still eat next to each other, will sleep in the same vicinity, and will play with the wand toy next to eachother, but still Roger is adamant about chasing then biting/humping Cooper. Just this morning I saw Roger stalk and chase Cooper out of the litterbox which is extra concerning to me.
Things I have tried:
Lots of playtime to wear Roger out
Cat calming pheromone diffusers
Cat calming food
Food puzzles
Lots of treats and playtime together
Thundershirt on Roger which definitely reduces this behavior but as he gets used to it, the behaviors have been returning
Lots of cat beds, scratchers, and cat trees
My friends, family and boyfriend say that I should try to find a new home for Roger since it's not fair to either of them right now, and I worry they might be right.
I have a vet appointment tomorrow to see what advice the vet says, but I feel I'm running out of options
I attached photos, grey kitty is resident Cooper, white/orange kitty is new kitty Roger
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is there any hope or should I try to rehome? Thank you so much <3
They still eat next to each other, will sleep in the same vicinity, and will play with the wand toy next to eachother, but still Roger is adamant about chasing then biting/humping Cooper. Just this morning I saw Roger stalk and chase Cooper out of the litterbox which is extra concerning to me.
Things I have tried:
Lots of playtime to wear Roger out
Cat calming pheromone diffusers
Cat calming food
Food puzzles
Lots of treats and playtime together
Thundershirt on Roger which definitely reduces this behavior but as he gets used to it, the behaviors have been returning
Lots of cat beds, scratchers, and cat trees
My friends, family and boyfriend say that I should try to find a new home for Roger since it's not fair to either of them right now, and I worry they might be right.
I have a vet appointment tomorrow to see what advice the vet says, but I feel I'm running out of options
I attached photos, grey kitty is resident Cooper, white/orange kitty is new kitty Roger
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is there any hope or should I try to rehome? Thank you so much <3
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