Hi 
I have 2 cats, whom I posted about before (you can look in my history):
1. Spencer: Male, neutered (since a young age), ~7 years old. He was my mother in law's kitten and we took him in when she passed away. He is very social and grew up with an older female cat who was neutered but has also passed. He never made any sexually aggressive advances on her. He has been living with us for 3 years.
2. Josie: Female, spayed (not sure when this occurred), ~9 years old. She was our friend's father in law's cat and we took her in when he passed away. She is timid, but is slowly warming up to her new home. She has been with us since February of this year.
We took introductions slowly, giving the cats about 6 weeks to get used to each other's smells and progressing them to the point that they both have free roam of the house unattended. They seem to be fond on one-another, often being found in the same room, lying on the same bed, rubbing against one-another, and occasionally playing.
There is one kind-of disturbing behavior that has been developing and with increasing frequency. We first joked about it and called it Spencer's "sex dance", but now it is happening several times a night and getting a little bit more "intense." Basically Josie will be lying in our bed, and I will hear Spencer meow from outside of the room (it is a very distinct type of meow), then he will enter the room purring very loudly, jump onto the bed and start kneading as he purrs and walking around her while facing her. He will then, eventually pounce on her and bite her neck and start making a humping motion. Her response will vary, from meowing at him and swatting during his purring and kneading demonstration, to just crouching and taking his pounce silently until it hurts, then she yowls and they scuffle (no blood) and he or she runs away.
At this point, I have been trying to chase him away before he can pounce; however, after reading some information online, it seems that this can be him asserting his dominance, especially over the bed-space with me in the bed. Should I try to redirect his attention to me and pet him and give him affection to show him that he is "top-cat," rather than chasing him away. Do you think this will help? Have you ever dealt with this? What did you do to fix it, or were you able to fix it?
Thank you!!!
I have 2 cats, whom I posted about before (you can look in my history):
1. Spencer: Male, neutered (since a young age), ~7 years old. He was my mother in law's kitten and we took him in when she passed away. He is very social and grew up with an older female cat who was neutered but has also passed. He never made any sexually aggressive advances on her. He has been living with us for 3 years.
2. Josie: Female, spayed (not sure when this occurred), ~9 years old. She was our friend's father in law's cat and we took her in when he passed away. She is timid, but is slowly warming up to her new home. She has been with us since February of this year.
We took introductions slowly, giving the cats about 6 weeks to get used to each other's smells and progressing them to the point that they both have free roam of the house unattended. They seem to be fond on one-another, often being found in the same room, lying on the same bed, rubbing against one-another, and occasionally playing.
There is one kind-of disturbing behavior that has been developing and with increasing frequency. We first joked about it and called it Spencer's "sex dance", but now it is happening several times a night and getting a little bit more "intense." Basically Josie will be lying in our bed, and I will hear Spencer meow from outside of the room (it is a very distinct type of meow), then he will enter the room purring very loudly, jump onto the bed and start kneading as he purrs and walking around her while facing her. He will then, eventually pounce on her and bite her neck and start making a humping motion. Her response will vary, from meowing at him and swatting during his purring and kneading demonstration, to just crouching and taking his pounce silently until it hurts, then she yowls and they scuffle (no blood) and he or she runs away.
At this point, I have been trying to chase him away before he can pounce; however, after reading some information online, it seems that this can be him asserting his dominance, especially over the bed-space with me in the bed. Should I try to redirect his attention to me and pet him and give him affection to show him that he is "top-cat," rather than chasing him away. Do you think this will help? Have you ever dealt with this? What did you do to fix it, or were you able to fix it?
Thank you!!!
