Its so hard losing a pet, my Mindy was hit by a car in 2004 and I still miss her terribly, I love all my cats but it still doesn't feel the same. As for this woman inviting cats to sleep on her bed, then this is totally wrong and it is people like that who contribute towards unwanted animals being put into shelters and being euthanised for no reason. Have you had a word with the other people's cats that she feeds? This might be a good idea, if they are also against it then thats a good start, you have done right for talking to her but some people do not listen.x