Sashasmama..I feel your pain. I am going through a similar situation...except my oldest cat has turned on me! I'm trying everything I can, but I walk around on eggshells. It's so frustrating. I know that it can get overwhelming when you receive negative responses about re-homing them, but it's also so tiring and stressful trying to remedy the situation...especially when you feel like you've tried everything. I hope things get better for you!