I'm sorry to say this but my mother is driving me CRAZY!!!!
I moved away from home over two years ago, as I was growing up my parents ALWAYS told me to get out of our small (and I mean itty bitty) town and go somewhere bigger and make a life for myself. Well when I go to do just that two years ago, right before I left they tried to bribe me to stay home by offering me the family car, then they started to moan and whine about me leaving and going so far away, they basically totally changed their tune. Now don't get me wrong, I understand that my parents were going to miss me, especially since I am an only child but why take a total turn around and try and make me feel guilty for taking their advice in the first place????
After a while they seem to get over that, after they adjusted to me not being home, or so I thought!
Lately, my mother has been saying how I never call home, she even went as far as to say she could count on one hand the number of times I've called home since I've left. I absolutely flipped out!!! I was so MAD
. For her to say this is a lie, a big fat one at that! I call home a lot more that anyone else I know, I call home on average every three or four days, more if I need my parents for something or if I'm just in the mood to talk to them. Does that make me an ungrateful child????
I don't think so! To me this shows, I am a well adjusted, independant adult (which reflects good on my parents of you ask me). They act like I don't care or love them anymore if I don't speak to them EVERY SINGLE night! I mean come on...
It's like because I don't call home, saying how much I miss them and my home that I've forgotten about them.
When I spoke with them last night and I knew as soon as I spoke with my mother that something was wrong, she'd barely talk. Then when I was talking to my dad I heard her in the background saying, how I could call and come home. She wont' say it to me, but she'll go off in the background when I'm talking to my father. I know I haven't been home since last December but it is expensive to fly home (it's a four hour flight) because home is on an island and this is what makes it so expensive. Also, they are coming for a visit in August as well, they come up at least once a year. They are asking me to come home for Christmas (they were here for Christmas last year), I'm not sure about my vacation time, my bf doesn't want to go home (which is fine) his mom is in the same city as us but she works every Christmas. I don't want him to spend Christmas alone, he has no other family here.
Shouldn't my parents be use to the idea of my not living close by anymore?? It's been over two years. I've made a life for myself here! I always thought that when I left home that mom and dad would enjoy their time alone, that they'd be content knowing I'm on my own, making my own way and happy. Was I wrong to think this? Is this how all parents are and I just didn't know it???? I know must sound like a huge brat but I am just so frustrated
I had to vent. Could I please get some advice on how to handle my parents, to tell them this without alienating (sp?) them?
Lately, my mother has been saying how I never call home, she even went as far as to say she could count on one hand the number of times I've called home since I've left. I absolutely flipped out!!! I was so MAD
When I spoke with them last night and I knew as soon as I spoke with my mother that something was wrong, she'd barely talk. Then when I was talking to my dad I heard her in the background saying, how I could call and come home. She wont' say it to me, but she'll go off in the background when I'm talking to my father. I know I haven't been home since last December but it is expensive to fly home (it's a four hour flight) because home is on an island and this is what makes it so expensive. Also, they are coming for a visit in August as well, they come up at least once a year. They are asking me to come home for Christmas (they were here for Christmas last year), I'm not sure about my vacation time, my bf doesn't want to go home (which is fine) his mom is in the same city as us but she works every Christmas. I don't want him to spend Christmas alone, he has no other family here.
Shouldn't my parents be use to the idea of my not living close by anymore?? It's been over two years. I've made a life for myself here! I always thought that when I left home that mom and dad would enjoy their time alone, that they'd be content knowing I'm on my own, making my own way and happy. Was I wrong to think this? Is this how all parents are and I just didn't know it???? I know must sound like a huge brat but I am just so frustrated