Chris, you'll deal with it because you have no other choice. Regardless of what anyone else has said or done, this was your Dad and you loved him. Having your family with you will be a tremendous help. And please, remember that all of us will be with you in spirit. I wish I could actually offer you a shoulder to lean on. You'll get thru it, and as time goes on it will get easier.I don't know how to prep myself for Sept. 11th..... its just a small service at the cemetary at 3, then meet at the legion at 4. So I'll be surrounded by all these ppl who hurt me, and not sure how I'll deal with it. BUT, the difference this time is that I will have MY family, husband and kids with me instead of being alone...I'm sure that will help some.