I really understand where you're at. My father remarried last year after Mom's passing in 2000. It was really hard for my sister and me to see him happy with someone other than Mom. While it seemed stupid to say, him moving on put a real finality to Mom's passing. We knew he wasn't replacing her, just moving forward, but it didn't make it any easier for us.
And I have to admit that there are things about her that I don't really like, but the most important thing in my mind is that she makes him happy. She's not Mom, she's not my step-mother either. She is Barb, and that's fine. Dad isn't "Dad" to her grown children either (though he is grandpa to their very small children).
It's been really difficult for me to come to terms with how I feel about the whole situation. It's taken quite a while for me to do so.
Even though it's quite possible to have more than one love of your life, or at least love in your life, you only have 1 mom and 1 dad.
And I have to admit that there are things about her that I don't really like, but the most important thing in my mind is that she makes him happy. She's not Mom, she's not my step-mother either. She is Barb, and that's fine. Dad isn't "Dad" to her grown children either (though he is grandpa to their very small children).
It's been really difficult for me to come to terms with how I feel about the whole situation. It's taken quite a while for me to do so.
Even though it's quite possible to have more than one love of your life, or at least love in your life, you only have 1 mom and 1 dad.