It does, it really does. You don’t think it can but it will…and actually crying a lot helps! Better to let it all out, whatever you are feeling. Try to comfort yourself, however that works for you: camomile tea, rest, being outdoors, meditation. Time is your healer & friend with this and also, try to remember your best buddy would not want your to be sad forever.
Hang in there, right now it is a blazing inferno of grief but over time it will become embers. I lost my sweet boy of 17 years about a month ago. He was my soul mate. I cried just yesterday morning and can't believe he's not here anymore but it's not the all consuming grief that it was the first week. I still replay the what if i would've done this or what if I didn't do that, would he still be here? but I also think, what if we would've never rescued him, he most certainly would've lived a far shorter/lesser life? In the grand scheme of things, we are all only here for a short while, our cats loved their lives, they loved it to the fullest each day, I'm starting to now try and take the attitude that I need to be more like them, not to fall into despair and grief but to make the most of each day we have and soak it all in, just like they would a sun bath. Saving another sweet soul when I'm ready is another way to honor their memory. I hope you find some peace in the coming days.
Yes, it will get better in that the pain you are feeling now will lessen with time. However, if you're like me it's not easy to talk about him without tearing up. I think the hardest thing is making the decision to let them go but I know you didn't want him to suffer. Everyone here understands and can empathize with you.
Thinking of you and keeping you in our thoughts.
Them not wanting me to be sad forever helped me get over the initial loss. I thought, "had it been me who passed and they needed to be placed in a new home, would I want them sad and depressed forever, or would I want them to decide they like their new home and love their new family?"It does, it really does. You don’t think it can but it will…and actually crying a lot helps! Better to let it all out, whatever you are feeling. Try to comfort yourself, however that works for you: camomile tea, rest, being outdoors, meditation. Time is your healer & friend with this and also, try to remember your best buddy would not want your to be sad forever.
Thank you!It does, it really does. You don’t think it can but it will…and actually crying a lot helps! Better to let it all out, whatever you are feeling. Try to comfort yourself, however that works for you: camomile tea, rest, being outdoors, meditation. Time is your healer & friend with this and also, try to remember your best buddy would not want your to be sad forever.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I am very sorry about your loss. I know that Pumpkin would not want me to be sad but right now my pain is so strong it's hard not to think about it too much.
Thank you! <hugs>Yes, it will get better in that the pain you are feeling now will lessen with time. However, if you're like me it's not easy to talk about him without tearing up. I think the hardest thing is making the decision to let them go but I know you didn't want him to suffer. Everyone here understands and can empathize with you.
Good point, I always worried about what would happen to Pumpkin if I died first. I would have wanted him to be happy even with me gone, I made sure that if something were to happen to me, that he'd be taken in so he wouldn't be homeless again, The shelter I made arrangements with will be getting all of his unopened dry and canned food and litter he's got left. I believe Pumpkin would want me to share his stuff with them.
Thank you! <hugs>
I did not know Pumpkins story, and how hard you fought to keep him. He was a very lucky cat to have someone who loved him so deeply and fiercely, having been abandoned before. If I were running a foster program and knew your story with him, I'd jump at the chance for you to be a foster caretaker. You could put your name in and tell them a little bit about yourself, and ask if they have any emergency back up plans. People go into the hospital with no prior medical problems all the time and I'm sure they've ran into similar situations.
Thank you!I did not know Pumpkins story, and how hard you fought to keep him. He was a very lucky cat to have someone who loved him so deeply and fiercely, having been abandoned before. If I were running a foster program and knew your story with him, I'd jump at the chance for you to be a foster caretaker. You could put your name in and tell them a little bit about yourself, and ask if they have any emergency back up plans. People go into the hospital with no prior medical problems all the time and I'm sure they've ran into similar situations.
I knew a lady who got very, very snitty with me once. It kind of shocked me TBH. Turns out, she had just lost her adult child, and within weeks had to bury her husband. Grief does funny things to our moods. I'm sure explaining what happened to the person at the laundromat was appreciated and I'm sure they feel for you. I know I do.
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Thank you! I think for now I will keep his ashes in one of his favourite parts of the house - the living room window. The window he's in now was one of his many hangouts in this apartment, He was always looking outdioors,
