Yup - I was giving him the benefit of the doubt, but the comment about hurting the cats - BIG no-no!
Yep, that's one thing we can all agree on for sure. This isn't cool in my book either!Originally Posted by Rockcat
Yup - I was giving him the benefit of the doubt, but the comment about hurting the cats - BIG no-no!
Exactly!! I feel like hes taking his anger out on everything. I cant seem to get to the bottom of what his problem is though...Originally Posted by minxie
Glad to hear you made the first move to patch things up...that shows how adult, mature and caring you are. Im surprised his reaction was a little bit more warm though.
It sounds that he has some issues which perhaps he hasn't talked to you about. He sounds angry and bitter about something and is using the housework, the cats and your rights to a social life as an excuse to vent his frustrations/anger.
If Gil so much as mumbled anything like that to me he'd be out the door and we'd be so over!Originally Posted by catloverin_ks
but hes mouthed something like "I should shoot all them SOB"
That's emotional and mental abuse.Originally Posted by catloverin_ks
Ok, well we have sorta made up....I bought him a sweet little lovey dovey card last night and well, he didnt say a whole lot about it. Mumbled something like I should of said it in person, or some bs. He did tell me yesterday that my house cleaning has pretty much gone to s***!!! I guess now I am a lazy a** wife too!! And also he started in on my catsAll because Lilly peed down our vents(which I admit is nasty) but hes mouthed something like "I should shoot all them SOB"So needless to say that didnt fly over with me!! I know for a fact he never would hurt them, hes just saying it to get to me(which it did)
Originally Posted by Ping
I am sorry but this just does not sound like a healthy relationship. Me and the hubby has been together for 8 yrs and though we have had fights he has never said anything about housecleaning or threaten to hurt our pets. Thats just crazy. I hope things work out for you.
It's nice that you've taken the first step to making up. But, IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN HIM doing that! As for saying that about your housekeeping - you should tell him that if you doesn't like it, then perhaps he should do it himself. And, if he's not prepared to do it himself, then he should just shut up about it. Either pitch in, or stop mouthing off about it.Originally Posted by catloverin_ks
Ok, well we have sorta made up....I bought him a sweet little lovey dovey card last night and well, he didnt say a whole lot about it. Mumbled something like I should of said it in person, or some bs. He did tell me yesterday that my house cleaning has pretty much gone to s***!!! I guess now I am a lazy a** wife too!!
I'm with you on that one Susie!Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
I give you credit for making up with him..............after saying some of those things that he said, he'd have to scrape himself up off the floor........