Hi everyone!
I really need your help. A friend of mine recently adopted her first cat ever, about a month and a half ago.
The thing is, as soon as she opened the door of the carrier the cat run and hid below the kitchen counter, and he wouldn't come out no matter what. He only seemed to venture out when he was totally alone to eat and use the littler box, but never in sight of anyone.
I told her this was normal behaviour, and that in a couple of days, a week at the most, the cat would begin to venture out around the house.
But the week went by and nothing changed.
I went to visit her sometime around the second week and she told me she didn't know what to do. She was starting to become impatient and told me that if the cat kept behaving like that for more than three weeks, she would begin to consider returning it to the shelter where it came from (it was in a foster home).
I was very sad to hear this, so I resolved to help her get the cat from under the counter. As I have had cats all my life and live with two of them, I have more experience than her in handling them. I put my arm under the counter and reached towards the cat, expecting some degree of growling or hissing, but to my surprise all I got was very loud purring.
I kept petting the cat for a while and when I sensed he was relaxed enough, I put both my arms under de counter and took it out. I held him in my arms for a while and though he tried to get back under the counter several times (without taking out his nails or trying to bite me a single time), the purring continued.
We took him to a bedroom, where he had his bed ready and all the toys and the scratching post. I sat on the floor and released him. He stuck by my side, very close to my body and purring, and I kept petting him for a while. He is one of those cats that pet themselves against you. I would extended my palm and he would rub his head against it, clearly enjoyin it. Until at some point he decided to run and hide under the bed.
I told my friend to continue this routine, coming everyday and petting him, and making him accustomed to her company, so that he will become less and less shy over time.
But three more weeks have passed and although she keeps spending lots of time with him, nothing has changed. He runs under the bed as soon as he can, and won't come out on his own. Only when taken out "forcefully". He's been over a month under that bed.
Now she's seriously considering returning the cat and it really saddens me because he is such a sweet, sweet cat like I've seen no other, clearly in need of so much love and caring, and he is about to miss this chance to stay in a forever home.
I'm out of ideas about how to help the cat become less shy and venture out more.
Do you have any suggestions? They would be greatly appreciated, I really want that cat to be happy and safe, it breaks my heart that she wants to return him.
Thanks and sorry for the long text.
I really need your help. A friend of mine recently adopted her first cat ever, about a month and a half ago.
The thing is, as soon as she opened the door of the carrier the cat run and hid below the kitchen counter, and he wouldn't come out no matter what. He only seemed to venture out when he was totally alone to eat and use the littler box, but never in sight of anyone.
I told her this was normal behaviour, and that in a couple of days, a week at the most, the cat would begin to venture out around the house.
But the week went by and nothing changed.
I went to visit her sometime around the second week and she told me she didn't know what to do. She was starting to become impatient and told me that if the cat kept behaving like that for more than three weeks, she would begin to consider returning it to the shelter where it came from (it was in a foster home).
I was very sad to hear this, so I resolved to help her get the cat from under the counter. As I have had cats all my life and live with two of them, I have more experience than her in handling them. I put my arm under the counter and reached towards the cat, expecting some degree of growling or hissing, but to my surprise all I got was very loud purring.
I kept petting the cat for a while and when I sensed he was relaxed enough, I put both my arms under de counter and took it out. I held him in my arms for a while and though he tried to get back under the counter several times (without taking out his nails or trying to bite me a single time), the purring continued.
We took him to a bedroom, where he had his bed ready and all the toys and the scratching post. I sat on the floor and released him. He stuck by my side, very close to my body and purring, and I kept petting him for a while. He is one of those cats that pet themselves against you. I would extended my palm and he would rub his head against it, clearly enjoyin it. Until at some point he decided to run and hide under the bed.
I told my friend to continue this routine, coming everyday and petting him, and making him accustomed to her company, so that he will become less and less shy over time.
But three more weeks have passed and although she keeps spending lots of time with him, nothing has changed. He runs under the bed as soon as he can, and won't come out on his own. Only when taken out "forcefully". He's been over a month under that bed.
Now she's seriously considering returning the cat and it really saddens me because he is such a sweet, sweet cat like I've seen no other, clearly in need of so much love and caring, and he is about to miss this chance to stay in a forever home.
I'm out of ideas about how to help the cat become less shy and venture out more.
Do you have any suggestions? They would be greatly appreciated, I really want that cat to be happy and safe, it breaks my heart that she wants to return him.
Thanks and sorry for the long text.