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Hello,
I was hoping someone could help me with my cat, Atlas. He's around a year and a half old, neutered, and the first cat I've ever had, only pet at my house at the moment. I adopted him when he was a baby, around 2 months old, and he's always been super cuddly and loving; sleeping on top of me, following me everywhere, kneading on me, purring, and so on...
This is gonna be a bit long to explain...
This year I got diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease. I'm a 24yo female. Because of this, I've been hospitalized too many times to count. The first time I was away for 2 full weeks.
He's indoors and has my family taking care of him; my older brother mostly; feeds and plays with him, and everytime I'm away they all tell me how much he misses me, waiting by the front window expecting me, searching for me around the house, asking for extra attention...
But when I finally come back home, he barely approaches me.
He smells me a bit and then leaves. I get gradually more responses the more I am home, but everytime I make progress, I end up setting everything back (I have to return to be hospitalized and spend the night there every 2 months for treatment...). When I come back is the same story over again...
It's heartbreaking to have him avoiding me like this, as if he doesn't trust I'll be back...
He does hoover around me when I get back at least. Follows me around too... My brother says he avoids his bed and my entire bedroom when I'm away, and only goes there to eat. And when I come back he's the first one to greet me by the window meowing desperatly, but as soon as I'm inside, he ignores me.
What can I do?...
I have given him all the space and time in the world, and lots of love when he comes near me, but I dunno if I'm doing anything wrong... he barely ever purrs for me, no more kneading, or sleeping on top of me... I miss all that...
Thank you if you got this far, sorry for the long post.
Hope someone can give me some insight...
I was hoping someone could help me with my cat, Atlas. He's around a year and a half old, neutered, and the first cat I've ever had, only pet at my house at the moment. I adopted him when he was a baby, around 2 months old, and he's always been super cuddly and loving; sleeping on top of me, following me everywhere, kneading on me, purring, and so on...
This is gonna be a bit long to explain...
This year I got diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease. I'm a 24yo female. Because of this, I've been hospitalized too many times to count. The first time I was away for 2 full weeks.
He's indoors and has my family taking care of him; my older brother mostly; feeds and plays with him, and everytime I'm away they all tell me how much he misses me, waiting by the front window expecting me, searching for me around the house, asking for extra attention...
But when I finally come back home, he barely approaches me.
He smells me a bit and then leaves. I get gradually more responses the more I am home, but everytime I make progress, I end up setting everything back (I have to return to be hospitalized and spend the night there every 2 months for treatment...). When I come back is the same story over again...
It's heartbreaking to have him avoiding me like this, as if he doesn't trust I'll be back...
He does hoover around me when I get back at least. Follows me around too... My brother says he avoids his bed and my entire bedroom when I'm away, and only goes there to eat. And when I come back he's the first one to greet me by the window meowing desperatly, but as soon as I'm inside, he ignores me.
What can I do?...
I have given him all the space and time in the world, and lots of love when he comes near me, but I dunno if I'm doing anything wrong... he barely ever purrs for me, no more kneading, or sleeping on top of me... I miss all that...
Thank you if you got this far, sorry for the long post.
Hope someone can give me some insight...