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Hey all, I really need some advice- I have a beautiful little 3 year old cat who is very loving to my boyfriend mainly.. I have been his cat mum since the start and although I’m not exactly his favourite parent, I am very very attached to him and love him like my own son
When I am around, my cat is always sitting on my boyfriends lap and is generally very happy when he is around.
Yesterday my boyfriend of 2+ years had pocket called me and when I listened, he was full on shouting at my cat at the top of his lungs- listening further, it seemed he was annoyed that the PS4 wasn’t working and my cat was meowing for something, so he was screaming at my cat to shut up and swearing etc.
My stomach turned! I was shocked to say the least as they are so sweet together when im around- but I didn’t mention it until I got home that evening as I needed to think of how to handle it...
I know my boyfriend has a history of anger issues, but I honestly thought he was dealing with it - the reason I am taking this so badly is because I know how ugly he is when he screams and shouts -and honesty he can be horrifying
when I get home, my cat is happily curled up on my boyfriends lap
After questioning my boyfriend about the pocket call, I used a bit of a white lie and said I’d heard him shouting at my cat on a number of occasions (when I’d only heard it this one time) - and he admitted that he does shout at my cat like that when he gets “angry”, so I learned this was not an isolated incident... he actually admitted that he “took his anger out” on my cat and apologised
I know he hasn’t hit my cat-as he definitely would not put up with that... cats in general just wouldn’t forgive that... And my cat would hold a grudge for ages if you accidentally trod on his tail...
Sorry for the lengthy question, but to the point now- my cat absolutely ADORES my boyfriend.. but should I be worried??? Even if my cat is taking it fine?
I’m not too sure where to go from here- I’m currently ignoring him and I have mentioned either him or myself leaving but I honestly don’t want that as, I and my cat adore this man...
But in any situation, whoever it may be- my cat comes first... but my cat loves him and misses him when he leaves the house and cuddles him when he gets home - but on the other hand he’s getting shouted at ... I am SOOO confused!!
Any advice would be great
Thank you for reading
*Crazy Cat Mum
X
When I am around, my cat is always sitting on my boyfriends lap and is generally very happy when he is around.
Yesterday my boyfriend of 2+ years had pocket called me and when I listened, he was full on shouting at my cat at the top of his lungs- listening further, it seemed he was annoyed that the PS4 wasn’t working and my cat was meowing for something, so he was screaming at my cat to shut up and swearing etc.
My stomach turned! I was shocked to say the least as they are so sweet together when im around- but I didn’t mention it until I got home that evening as I needed to think of how to handle it...
I know my boyfriend has a history of anger issues, but I honestly thought he was dealing with it - the reason I am taking this so badly is because I know how ugly he is when he screams and shouts -and honesty he can be horrifying
when I get home, my cat is happily curled up on my boyfriends lap
After questioning my boyfriend about the pocket call, I used a bit of a white lie and said I’d heard him shouting at my cat on a number of occasions (when I’d only heard it this one time) - and he admitted that he does shout at my cat like that when he gets “angry”, so I learned this was not an isolated incident... he actually admitted that he “took his anger out” on my cat and apologised
I know he hasn’t hit my cat-as he definitely would not put up with that... cats in general just wouldn’t forgive that... And my cat would hold a grudge for ages if you accidentally trod on his tail...
Sorry for the lengthy question, but to the point now- my cat absolutely ADORES my boyfriend.. but should I be worried??? Even if my cat is taking it fine?
I’m not too sure where to go from here- I’m currently ignoring him and I have mentioned either him or myself leaving but I honestly don’t want that as, I and my cat adore this man...
But in any situation, whoever it may be- my cat comes first... but my cat loves him and misses him when he leaves the house and cuddles him when he gets home - but on the other hand he’s getting shouted at ... I am SOOO confused!!
Any advice would be great
Thank you for reading
*Crazy Cat Mum
X