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I am so sorry to hear this. He reminds me of our last cat. Just so sad that you lost him at such a young age but take come cpmfort in knowing that you did your best for him while he was here.
If your cat was anything like my Dubs, they he brought untold amounts of entertainment to you and I'm glad for it. We're doing our best, yesterday was the first day I didn't cry, so that's somewhat exciting, Dubs didn't like it when I cried. Thank you.
I am so sorry to hear this. He reminds me of our last cat. Just so sad that you lost him at such a young age but take come cpmfort in knowing that you did your best for him while he was here.
I just want to caution you. You cannot control this process. Most of us go through different phases several times , sometimes slipping back to ground zero a few times. Bringing his ashes home will be bittersweet. You will feel relief he's home and be instantly reminded he'll never be in your home again. Do not set expectations for yourself. Don't try and logic your way out of it. As long as you can function fairly normal. Can communicate with your partner and your other pets are cared for your grief is yours to work through.Thank you so much, I'm glad to hear this paranoia is normal. I've actually worked as a Vetrinary assistant before, so to an extent I know what goes on behind those closed doors, which is why my logic is in constant battle with my emotions. My vet is very blunt and difficult to read, but it's actually one of the reasons I stuck with him. Facts and science comfort me, and that's why it's bothers me so much I couldn't have an necropsy done. Also, through the research is was doing, a stress induced clot does make a great deal of sense, I'm not arguing that at all. In all honesty I hope it was a clot, only because I know there is basically nothing that could have been done, the prognosis for clots in cats is very poor. I think it's just because I wasn't there, and he was so young, and that this was so out of nowhere. I feel a little bit more confident about tomorrow, and I will write down my questions, and I really only have two. I just want him to explain to me again exactly what he thinks happened, and I want to make sure he did whatever he could. I accept I'll never know why truly happened, I understand that, like my boss told me, "I was dealt a raw hand by nature." Thank you so much for your reassurance, I just have to live through tomorrow, wait for his ashes, then I can truly begin to celebrate the wonderful years I spent with him.
Also, @Kittens Mom, I was reading through the stories on your thread, and you had mentioned at one point how with only your one cat, you need someone to care for. I completely understand, my Rudy is so easy to care for compared to Dubs I feel as if I have nothing to do, and there is a part of me that wants to run out and adopt a new companion right this moment. I loved taking care of Dubs, even if it was a pain is my ass, I loved it. I had to make him "soup" for his meals he could only eat wet food, and to try to prevent future blockages I had to mix it with some warm water and a small amount of mineral oil. I had to diligently watch to make sure he didn't steal his brother's dry food, and chase him away from the dog's food, which he happily ate despite the kibble being the size of his whole mouth. It's crazy how much I miss those mundane tasks now. The area of my counter he took his meals has to be kept clean, I get nervous when dishes are placed there, I have to do them and move them immediatley.
Thank you! I'm doing a little better this morning, I've lived through a week. I have to be brave, like Dubs was, for his sake I have to go and find out in my vet's words what happened.Thinking about you! Hugs [emoji]128151[/emoji]
The end result of all grief should be to love everyone we cherish , human or pet more profoundly. Because we have just had lesson from the universe that nothing lasts forever. Each day is a gift. Treat it that way.
Thank you everyone so much, I just think my brain is more satisfied now that I have as much closure as I'm ever going to get. I'm going to be sad when I remember him, even when its a happy memory, but my boyfriend and I are going to move toward the future, and I'm excited for what it will bring. My life is almost split now into a "before Dubs/after Dubs" state, if I think of a day before the 8th in the back of my mind all I can think is "Dubs was still alive". But, I want to make everything after Dubs wonderful, I want to go on with my life keeping his spirit in me, because its a precious gift I can't afford to waste.
Thank you everyone so much, I just think my brain is more satisfied now that I have as much closure as I'm ever going to get. I'm going to be sad when I remember him, even when its a happy memory, but my boyfriend and I are going to move toward the future, and I'm excited for what it will bring. My life is almost split now into a "before Dubs/after Dubs" state, if I think of a day before the 8th in the back of my mind all I can think is "Dubs was still alive". But, I want to make everything after Dubs wonderful, I want to go on with my life keeping his spirit in me, because its a precious gift I can't afford to waste.
That's a really beautiful way of thinking.The end result of all grief should be to love everyone we cherish , human or pet more profoundly. Because we have just had lesson from the universe that nothing lasts forever. Each day is a gift. Treat it that way.