Hi everyone,
I have a 5 year old rescue from a local animal shelter. When I visited him, he was hiding, but I pet him and he LOVED it. He absolutely adored affection, and the employees and volunteers at the shelter said he would warm up and that he was shy because he missed some of the cats recently adopted.
It has now been 6 months and he's miserable and so are me and my boyfriend. At first things were fine (though he was scared and never really acted
normal) because we kept him in the spare bedroom with his water, litter box and food. However, I made the mistake of keeping the door open one day so he could get adjusted to the house and since then all he has done is hide under the couch (yes, for SIX months).
I would also like to say that he refuses to play with toys, he is so scared that he will allow himself to starve rather than eat, and he has stopped using the litter box. Instead he's gone in my laundry basket filled with clothes, on my towels on the towel rack in the bathroom, my blanket on the couch - anything other than the litter box. I've put his messes in the litter box as recommended and it doesn't seem to matter. He did use the litter box when he was in the spare bedroom, but now I can't catch him as he's lightning fast and terrified of any sound or movement. He has no interest in going back into the spare room even though that's where I put his food every night. Instead, I have to put his food behind the couch or else he will not eat it.
I am beyond frustrated. Just about a week ago, I adopted another cat. Everyone, including the volunteers at the animal shelter, told me they thought he needed another cat to help bring out his friendly side again. It hasn't worked - they just ignore each other. I do not want to seem like someone who just "replaces" animals if I don't like them or their personality, because that isn't the case at all! I just don't know what I can do for him at this point.
Is there anyone who can provide me with some insight? What am I doing wrong? Should he be going back to the shelter? I can't get him to approach me or stop hiding and I think both of us are miserable at this point. I'm not even sure if he should be in a home because of how scared he is.
Thanks to everyone who reads or replies!
I have a 5 year old rescue from a local animal shelter. When I visited him, he was hiding, but I pet him and he LOVED it. He absolutely adored affection, and the employees and volunteers at the shelter said he would warm up and that he was shy because he missed some of the cats recently adopted.
It has now been 6 months and he's miserable and so are me and my boyfriend. At first things were fine (though he was scared and never really acted
normal) because we kept him in the spare bedroom with his water, litter box and food. However, I made the mistake of keeping the door open one day so he could get adjusted to the house and since then all he has done is hide under the couch (yes, for SIX months).
I would also like to say that he refuses to play with toys, he is so scared that he will allow himself to starve rather than eat, and he has stopped using the litter box. Instead he's gone in my laundry basket filled with clothes, on my towels on the towel rack in the bathroom, my blanket on the couch - anything other than the litter box. I've put his messes in the litter box as recommended and it doesn't seem to matter. He did use the litter box when he was in the spare bedroom, but now I can't catch him as he's lightning fast and terrified of any sound or movement. He has no interest in going back into the spare room even though that's where I put his food every night. Instead, I have to put his food behind the couch or else he will not eat it.
I am beyond frustrated. Just about a week ago, I adopted another cat. Everyone, including the volunteers at the animal shelter, told me they thought he needed another cat to help bring out his friendly side again. It hasn't worked - they just ignore each other. I do not want to seem like someone who just "replaces" animals if I don't like them or their personality, because that isn't the case at all! I just don't know what I can do for him at this point.
Is there anyone who can provide me with some insight? What am I doing wrong? Should he be going back to the shelter? I can't get him to approach me or stop hiding and I think both of us are miserable at this point. I'm not even sure if he should be in a home because of how scared he is.
Thanks to everyone who reads or replies!