Living together beforehand allows both partners to discover and deal with countless potential pitfalls while you're still in "test" mode -- which greatly relieves the pressure on the eventual marriage.
Considering the agonizing legal entanglements of divorce, I think it's foolish to marry anyone you haven't lived with, argued with, and gone through hell-and-high-water with for at least a year or two.
Marriage is extremely painful to take apart. You don't want to put it together until you're as certain of success as it's humanly possible to be, and living together is the only way to be that certain.
Having said that, however: please don't let your friends's horror stories scare you! Your relationship (whether married or just cohabiting) can be whatever the two of you decide to make it! If you and your beloved consciously choose every single day to be honest, caring, and kind to one another, you will not repeat the failures of others.
Good luck!
Considering the agonizing legal entanglements of divorce, I think it's foolish to marry anyone you haven't lived with, argued with, and gone through hell-and-high-water with for at least a year or two.
Marriage is extremely painful to take apart. You don't want to put it together until you're as certain of success as it's humanly possible to be, and living together is the only way to be that certain.
Having said that, however: please don't let your friends's horror stories scare you! Your relationship (whether married or just cohabiting) can be whatever the two of you decide to make it! If you and your beloved consciously choose every single day to be honest, caring, and kind to one another, you will not repeat the failures of others.
Good luck!