This will be a long post. But in order for you all to understand my delima, you should know the situation.
Ok first things first. I am a 37 yr old disabled male in wheelchair. I never had a pet of any sort. This past June my ex and I rented a place along with her 2 boys 6 and 3 yrs old and a baby on the way (not mine, long story.) Well, just recently about 1 1/2 months ago. My ex and I were told by the neighors upstairs who have a cat who just had some kittens and are about 14 weeks old. We were told that in the winter time we would get mice in the house and we figured with a newborn on the way it would probably be a good idea of having a cat around. She has a dog by the way. Well I wasnt too keen on the idea of another pet let alone a cat with a dog around. I never really been into cats until now. Well anyways we ended up taking her in eventually and things were fine and the dog and the kitten got along great. The cat seem to take a liking to me more than the others. She would be on my desk either asleep or us two playing with each other. When it was bedtime for me she would be right there for some play time then we would both cuddle and sleep. This was pretty much a steady pattern every night. Well, one day I went to a friends house to watch a football game and when i came back home I knew something wasnt right. My ex had just got up and left. She had done this before at least 3 times. ( my stupidity I know.) Anyways, her and the kids and dog were gone, but she did leave the cat. I found the 14 week old kitten in the middle of the room crying when i came in. Well, I knew then I couldnt stay there I had to get out too because of the memories. But, where I would be moving to either in with my mom or with a friend of mine I knew she couldnt come with. It hurts so bad!!
Anyways we had about a week together and we bonded even more. Well what happend is this is I moved out today and in with a friend of mine where they can not have pets. My baby went to my brothers house where they have 3 cats. 1 elderly cat and 2 that are a little over 1 yr old. I know she will have a good home there until we can be back together. The plan is in about 5 months MAYBE, that my friend and I can get a bigger place since his is one bedroom apartment and a place that allows pets or at least a cat. ITs been 12 hrs and I am more depressed about my kitten and I being apart than what my ex did to me. Here is my question and advice that I need for a newbie cat lover.
I hear animals especially cats adapt well and fairly quickly. I left with my brother and his gf a flannel shirt she would sleep on a lot as a security blanket in a new surrounding. I am just wondering and worried that she will get depressed or wondering how she is feeling if she will be ok, and wont be mad at me or think i didnt love her and betray her since my ex and kids left, and now me. Will she be ok for the 5 months or a bit longer? I can go visit her from time to time but I also know my brother and his gf and 13 yr old they keep pretty busy. They offered for me to come see her and assured she would be ok. I know she will. But I cant stop thinking, does my cat have feelings to the point she may think I dont love her or want her? I keep getting this image in my head of her sleeping on my flannel shirt crying or her little heart broken and lonely for her daddy. I never had a pet and I miss her terribly. So, does she feel betrayed and not loved because of this? will she be ok with the other 3 cats? The vet told me she would be ok and so did my brother and his gf. But I guess its just that I want her back!!!!
I love that cat so much that I even contiplated leaving in Feb. and get my own place if my friend cant move out longer than 5 months. I want my kitten back! Help me understand if she will be ok, and what she may be thinking or feeling??? Will she be mad at me when I go see her or run up to me in hopes she will remember me and miss me. Help me cope and help a newbie pet/cat lover to understand and if things wil be fine. But once we do move out we would get a place that will allow pets. I am almost thinking now to get my own place just so I can have her back! what is your advice and point of view?
I will miss her when I got to bed and realize she wont be climbingup to cuiddle with me and play. I miss her dearly!!! Everytime I think about her I lose my composure. Will the other cats and her get along ok even when they hissed at one another? She is ina good clean home with other kittens..Will she forget me or be angry with me what?
Thanks, for listening to my novel!!
Ok first things first. I am a 37 yr old disabled male in wheelchair. I never had a pet of any sort. This past June my ex and I rented a place along with her 2 boys 6 and 3 yrs old and a baby on the way (not mine, long story.) Well, just recently about 1 1/2 months ago. My ex and I were told by the neighors upstairs who have a cat who just had some kittens and are about 14 weeks old. We were told that in the winter time we would get mice in the house and we figured with a newborn on the way it would probably be a good idea of having a cat around. She has a dog by the way. Well I wasnt too keen on the idea of another pet let alone a cat with a dog around. I never really been into cats until now. Well anyways we ended up taking her in eventually and things were fine and the dog and the kitten got along great. The cat seem to take a liking to me more than the others. She would be on my desk either asleep or us two playing with each other. When it was bedtime for me she would be right there for some play time then we would both cuddle and sleep. This was pretty much a steady pattern every night. Well, one day I went to a friends house to watch a football game and when i came back home I knew something wasnt right. My ex had just got up and left. She had done this before at least 3 times. ( my stupidity I know.) Anyways, her and the kids and dog were gone, but she did leave the cat. I found the 14 week old kitten in the middle of the room crying when i came in. Well, I knew then I couldnt stay there I had to get out too because of the memories. But, where I would be moving to either in with my mom or with a friend of mine I knew she couldnt come with. It hurts so bad!!
Anyways we had about a week together and we bonded even more. Well what happend is this is I moved out today and in with a friend of mine where they can not have pets. My baby went to my brothers house where they have 3 cats. 1 elderly cat and 2 that are a little over 1 yr old. I know she will have a good home there until we can be back together. The plan is in about 5 months MAYBE, that my friend and I can get a bigger place since his is one bedroom apartment and a place that allows pets or at least a cat. ITs been 12 hrs and I am more depressed about my kitten and I being apart than what my ex did to me. Here is my question and advice that I need for a newbie cat lover.
I hear animals especially cats adapt well and fairly quickly. I left with my brother and his gf a flannel shirt she would sleep on a lot as a security blanket in a new surrounding. I am just wondering and worried that she will get depressed or wondering how she is feeling if she will be ok, and wont be mad at me or think i didnt love her and betray her since my ex and kids left, and now me. Will she be ok for the 5 months or a bit longer? I can go visit her from time to time but I also know my brother and his gf and 13 yr old they keep pretty busy. They offered for me to come see her and assured she would be ok. I know she will. But I cant stop thinking, does my cat have feelings to the point she may think I dont love her or want her? I keep getting this image in my head of her sleeping on my flannel shirt crying or her little heart broken and lonely for her daddy. I never had a pet and I miss her terribly. So, does she feel betrayed and not loved because of this? will she be ok with the other 3 cats? The vet told me she would be ok and so did my brother and his gf. But I guess its just that I want her back!!!!
I love that cat so much that I even contiplated leaving in Feb. and get my own place if my friend cant move out longer than 5 months. I want my kitten back! Help me understand if she will be ok, and what she may be thinking or feeling??? Will she be mad at me when I go see her or run up to me in hopes she will remember me and miss me. Help me cope and help a newbie pet/cat lover to understand and if things wil be fine. But once we do move out we would get a place that will allow pets. I am almost thinking now to get my own place just so I can have her back! what is your advice and point of view?
I will miss her when I got to bed and realize she wont be climbingup to cuiddle with me and play. I miss her dearly!!! Everytime I think about her I lose my composure. Will the other cats and her get along ok even when they hissed at one another? She is ina good clean home with other kittens..Will she forget me or be angry with me what?
Thanks, for listening to my novel!!