It's been 2.5 months since Callie was put to sleep and I miss her so much, but especially lately it seems. I miss her sweet, calm presence and her snuggles. She was just always "there", you know? She was so predictable and steady and she was MINE, always MY cat. She loved Mark and would sit on his lap and enjoy his pets, but in reality it was ME that she had bonded with most.
I miss having a cat that's MY cat. Hannah and Tumbles have turned out to be Mark's cats, if you know what I mean. I just don't have that deep heart connection with either one of them. Maybe it's because he's at home with them during the day while I'm working or maybe it's just because he's not so "in your face" with them. I tend to want to pet them, love on them, and snuggle with them.
Don't get me wrong, I love both Hannah and Tumbles to pieces, and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world, but I'm missing the feeling of having a cat that's closer to me than Mark. Hannah snuggles, but only when she's hungry and/or only on her terms. She enjoys being petted and loved on, but not for too long. She likes to be with her humans, but not necessarily next to us, just in the same room. Tumbles is still just a little tyke. He's easy to overstimulate and so BUSY all the time! He doesn't have time for extended petting sessions and snuggling. Perhaps that will come in time, but I don't think he's going to turn into a Momma's boy.
I just miss that really connected and bonded feeling I had with Callie. Mark asked me the other day if that is what's really driving my desire to get a playmate for Tumbles. He's wondering if I'm, in some way, trying to replace Callie. I don't think I am, but it would be nice to have another kitty that I had that type of bond with.
Sorry for rambling, but does this make sense to anyone and does anyone have any words of advice or encouragement?
I miss having a cat that's MY cat. Hannah and Tumbles have turned out to be Mark's cats, if you know what I mean. I just don't have that deep heart connection with either one of them. Maybe it's because he's at home with them during the day while I'm working or maybe it's just because he's not so "in your face" with them. I tend to want to pet them, love on them, and snuggle with them.
Don't get me wrong, I love both Hannah and Tumbles to pieces, and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world, but I'm missing the feeling of having a cat that's closer to me than Mark. Hannah snuggles, but only when she's hungry and/or only on her terms. She enjoys being petted and loved on, but not for too long. She likes to be with her humans, but not necessarily next to us, just in the same room. Tumbles is still just a little tyke. He's easy to overstimulate and so BUSY all the time! He doesn't have time for extended petting sessions and snuggling. Perhaps that will come in time, but I don't think he's going to turn into a Momma's boy.
I just miss that really connected and bonded feeling I had with Callie. Mark asked me the other day if that is what's really driving my desire to get a playmate for Tumbles. He's wondering if I'm, in some way, trying to replace Callie. I don't think I am, but it would be nice to have another kitty that I had that type of bond with.
Sorry for rambling, but does this make sense to anyone and does anyone have any words of advice or encouragement?