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Bronty,
Sorry about the delayed response. Thank you for that information.
Caspers Human post is spot on. It is a lot of art and not as much science as one would hope.
What you have described in your most recent post is pretty normal and there are positives in how they interact.
Eating together is great. If you can keep trying with that that would be great. We always want to associate the other cat with good things like play and food.
Great that you will continue with play and feed. I wish the resident cat would play but if he can watch kitten play that will help.
The fact he freezes when she is near just tells me he is a bit leery and does not want to be "prey". It is great he holds his own and doesn't run or flee like prey would, I like that he kept wanting to go higher than her. The growling is normal, he is just saying "don't try anything" it tells me he is more confident than I feared. LOVE the greeting and rolling around on the floor through the screen. And I love the blinking.
Great that kitten was raised by her mom. Were their other kittens as well? They learn social skills while being raised. It sounds like she is just a normal kitten, playful. They know the difference between a playful swat or nip and something worse. I think it sounds like her actions are playful. She runs through the house back and forth, normal kitten stuff, a lot of energy. My new 3 yr old feral is doing that now. The others are adjusting to it since it is different for them. It is just them wanting to play.
So I think you are closer than you think. It is an adjustment for the resident cat, he is accustomed to living in a certain way and this new ball of energy comes in (which will be a positive for him).
It is tough to know when the time is right to get them together. I would try to get the kitten to play in front of resident cat, get them to eat near each other, do some site and scent swapping and then use your best judgement on getting them together. When you do get them together again make sure it is in an area that offers multiple exit routes. If it starts to get uncomfortable (staring or stalking etc or you see one of the cats getting tense with ears going back, tail moving rapidly, tail getting big, growling etc) distract the kitten with play. It should distract the kitten and allow the resident cat to feel less threatened. Be ready with a blanket if the swatting etc turns into a fight (I am guessing it will not but be ready). And try to stay as calm as possible, I truly believe cats can sense our energy and if they sense fear they can then start fearing and get defensive. A stern "No" in a confident voice can help.
I don't think they are that far apart judging by what you wrote. Caspers Human really is spot on with her post about how to handle the "negotiations" that all cats have to go through.
The vast majority of cats do not want to hurt another cat from my experience. I take care of a colony of ferals and have introduced numerous cats into our home. They tend to know how to interact and if one gets too "pushy" the other one tells them they don't like it and the "pushy" one realizes it is best to be more reserved in interacting. But the cat telling the pushing one not to do whatever they don't like usually doesn't hurt the other one, just a swat or a growl etc. It looks worse than what it is but that is how they establish the "rules".
I think you are doing all the right things and I am very confident that it will work. I know it is a bit scary to get them together and to see how they "negotiate" but that is how it is. Just keep up the play feed, height and if your resident cat can watch and realize the kitten does not want to hurt him things should go well.
Let us know how things go. Thank you for doing all your are doing and saving another life.
Sorry about the delayed response. Thank you for that information.
Caspers Human post is spot on. It is a lot of art and not as much science as one would hope.
What you have described in your most recent post is pretty normal and there are positives in how they interact.
Eating together is great. If you can keep trying with that that would be great. We always want to associate the other cat with good things like play and food.
Great that you will continue with play and feed. I wish the resident cat would play but if he can watch kitten play that will help.
The fact he freezes when she is near just tells me he is a bit leery and does not want to be "prey". It is great he holds his own and doesn't run or flee like prey would, I like that he kept wanting to go higher than her. The growling is normal, he is just saying "don't try anything" it tells me he is more confident than I feared. LOVE the greeting and rolling around on the floor through the screen. And I love the blinking.
Great that kitten was raised by her mom. Were their other kittens as well? They learn social skills while being raised. It sounds like she is just a normal kitten, playful. They know the difference between a playful swat or nip and something worse. I think it sounds like her actions are playful. She runs through the house back and forth, normal kitten stuff, a lot of energy. My new 3 yr old feral is doing that now. The others are adjusting to it since it is different for them. It is just them wanting to play.
So I think you are closer than you think. It is an adjustment for the resident cat, he is accustomed to living in a certain way and this new ball of energy comes in (which will be a positive for him).
It is tough to know when the time is right to get them together. I would try to get the kitten to play in front of resident cat, get them to eat near each other, do some site and scent swapping and then use your best judgement on getting them together. When you do get them together again make sure it is in an area that offers multiple exit routes. If it starts to get uncomfortable (staring or stalking etc or you see one of the cats getting tense with ears going back, tail moving rapidly, tail getting big, growling etc) distract the kitten with play. It should distract the kitten and allow the resident cat to feel less threatened. Be ready with a blanket if the swatting etc turns into a fight (I am guessing it will not but be ready). And try to stay as calm as possible, I truly believe cats can sense our energy and if they sense fear they can then start fearing and get defensive. A stern "No" in a confident voice can help.
I don't think they are that far apart judging by what you wrote. Caspers Human really is spot on with her post about how to handle the "negotiations" that all cats have to go through.
The vast majority of cats do not want to hurt another cat from my experience. I take care of a colony of ferals and have introduced numerous cats into our home. They tend to know how to interact and if one gets too "pushy" the other one tells them they don't like it and the "pushy" one realizes it is best to be more reserved in interacting. But the cat telling the pushing one not to do whatever they don't like usually doesn't hurt the other one, just a swat or a growl etc. It looks worse than what it is but that is how they establish the "rules".
I think you are doing all the right things and I am very confident that it will work. I know it is a bit scary to get them together and to see how they "negotiate" but that is how it is. Just keep up the play feed, height and if your resident cat can watch and realize the kitten does not want to hurt him things should go well.
Let us know how things go. Thank you for doing all your are doing and saving another life.