Just remember WE are here to listen to you, at any point in time, there is someone on here from somewhere all over the world. Feel free to vent, chat, whatever you need. Hugs.
That is terrible, and i'm so pleased they don't do that here in the UK because a lot of people would be up in arms with it. We have very good data protection here, so maybe someone needs to take a leaf out of our book when it comes to sensitive issues like this.Originally Posted by Tink80
Did you know there's a mailing list you get put on when they die? I'm getting advertisements in the mail for monuments. Isn't that incredibly sad?
I have a few friends but only one girlfriend and she is so busy with last minute wedding arrangements. Plus, I am kind of a loner and I process things better when I am alone. I enjoy friends for brief periods but I don't think it'd help me if they were here. They've done a pretty good job checking in on me but these last few days I've asked for time alone.Originally Posted by kluchetta
Mary, do you have any girlfriends? Anyone who can be with you in some of those long hours? Realize that people will act like they are avoiding you because they have no clue what to do. If you can possibly reach out and tell people what you need, I'm sure you will find them happy to help. Thinking about you a LOT.
And there will be days you probably will lie in bed and just cry. It's OK. Well - it's not OK. None of it is OK. You feel ripped apart, because you found not "just" love, but your soul mate, and he was taken from you FAR too young. That's the really crappy thing about life. It ends. And when we don't get to spend "the rest of our lives" with that person... that grief and that pain is just that much worse. Tink, I can only imagine your grief and your pain, and it just hurts my heart so much.Originally Posted by Tink80
So terrible painful grief has set in. I'm not sure what to say or how to explain.
I cut myself yesterday for the first time in years.
I have an appt. with the psychiatrist in a few hours.
Nights are the worst and absolutely horrific.
I want to lie in bed and give up and die.
I want Kevin to be alive again.
I want to live through one day without it taking everything in me.
I'm so glad you cut just the once, and I'm so glad you're reaching out for help, and getting help.Originally Posted by Tink80
i went to the psychiatrist. got sleeping pills for the nights. stopped cutting it was just that once.
have had some disagreements with his family about certain things but i guess we're alright now.
my stomach feels shredded. it is upset and i eat a lot of tums. my intestines are not happy.
lots of people stopping by the house. some helpful, some not.
got a tattoo of Kevin's initials on my shoulder.
have the crappy task of figuring out what to do with this dogs. got his turtle rehomed. his oldest and dearest dog went with his sister. heart wrenching decisions on the other two.
i got his ashes. i talk to them alot.
i wander aimlessly.
i listen to sad songs and watch movies and order books about being a widow.
i go from passive despair to anger and fury to numb and distant.
i have heard horrible screams come out of me from the bottom of my soul.
i have felt bitterness towards happy people or others moving on.
i have been lost.
I'm so sorry she had a brain tumor... but at least now for sure you're not left second-guessing that decision.Originally Posted by Tink80
Thanks, guys.
Our regular vet contacted me and assured me it was for the best. The vet last night also told me that Bounce showed some signs of brain tumor which would explain some of her unpredictable behavior. Poor girl.
There was a peace after she left. Almost felt like Kevin had been waiting for his dog before moving on.
There's something wrong with my car so I have a friend who is handy stopping by to give me his opinion. I hope it's not too expensive to fix. Last thing I'd need right now.
Originally Posted by Tink80
LDG, your post was very meaningful to me. Thank you for taking the time to write it