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I'll keep it short and come to the incident. My cat has been stressed for a while because of moving to a new house and having to live with me in a small room for a while. And I was stressful because I lost my job, and my school was not going good.
During an ordinary day, she had her angry moments when she tried to, and most of the time succeeded to bite or scratch me. She did not come to my lap and assaulted me at any time. She also had her "cute cat" moments where she sang to me, slept on my bed, played with her toys etc.
In a moment when I was angry and she was stressful again, she attacked me. I first tried to stop her by picking her up and putting her on the floor (She climbed on me to attack me). This went on for like 10 minutes. She then managed to get a big scratch on me, which bled badly. That moment I hit her harder than I meant, and she got more aggressive. She caught my hand and bit it, and I hit her again, this time less hard. Then I threw her on my bed (Not sure how that sounds, but I went near my bed and let her go off my hands to the bed).
After this, she took a look at me, I was looking angry, and she slowly went to the corner of the room. I was feeling bad, but I was still angry. She stood there for like 5 minutes. Then she became playful, which was a trap. She came to me to play, I let her. She climbed on my shoulder and bit my face. There's a little mark where she bit now. Feeling bad about what I did before, and guessing this was triggered by my previous bad behavior, but still being angry, I slowly hit her head, and then put her into her carrier.
After 15-20 minutes, I opened the door of the carrier. She immediately got out of the carrier, and went to the corner of the room again. From there, she looked at me and slowly closed her eyes (I heard that this is the sign of affection, but now I think it could be something else).
After a while, she became normal, I mean not stressed. I let her out of our room, she went there, I saw her sitting in the corner of the other room. She then came to our room, drank some water, then slept on my bed. She got up when I tried to sleep, but she came to the bed while I was sleeping.
Some unexpected stuff has been happening since that incident about which I still feel bad. First of all, she doesn't run away from me, or feel stressed around me. I expected to have a worse relationship after that, but she seems like she doesn't care. But there are some moments when I catch her looks, saying "Scr*w you, human" lol. But these were always there, I guess. She also somehow feels secure around me, enough to still jump on me to play. Although she now has the chance to go to 3 other rooms, she chooses to stay where I am. First I thought she stays here because her food is here, but she comes with me to another room as well.
Here are some photos which are taken while I'm writing this. Note that the incident is still fresh (Maybe 10 hours ago) and I wouldn't blame her if she tried to attack me again.
"What is this now, human? A selfie of me and your shirt?"
"Oh, my tail!"
"You sneaky you!"
"I don't care what you do"
Now, what is this? Did she forgive me? Or something else is happening? Is it possible that she feels forced to do what she does now because I'm the one who feeds her?
What can I do to strengthen the trust and bond between us ( Of course, first thing to do is not to hit her again, I know)? It looks like her trust and love is not affected by the incident, but it has to...
I am confused. Help me and my cat.
During an ordinary day, she had her angry moments when she tried to, and most of the time succeeded to bite or scratch me. She did not come to my lap and assaulted me at any time. She also had her "cute cat" moments where she sang to me, slept on my bed, played with her toys etc.
In a moment when I was angry and she was stressful again, she attacked me. I first tried to stop her by picking her up and putting her on the floor (She climbed on me to attack me). This went on for like 10 minutes. She then managed to get a big scratch on me, which bled badly. That moment I hit her harder than I meant, and she got more aggressive. She caught my hand and bit it, and I hit her again, this time less hard. Then I threw her on my bed (Not sure how that sounds, but I went near my bed and let her go off my hands to the bed).
After this, she took a look at me, I was looking angry, and she slowly went to the corner of the room. I was feeling bad, but I was still angry. She stood there for like 5 minutes. Then she became playful, which was a trap. She came to me to play, I let her. She climbed on my shoulder and bit my face. There's a little mark where she bit now. Feeling bad about what I did before, and guessing this was triggered by my previous bad behavior, but still being angry, I slowly hit her head, and then put her into her carrier.
After 15-20 minutes, I opened the door of the carrier. She immediately got out of the carrier, and went to the corner of the room again. From there, she looked at me and slowly closed her eyes (I heard that this is the sign of affection, but now I think it could be something else).
After a while, she became normal, I mean not stressed. I let her out of our room, she went there, I saw her sitting in the corner of the other room. She then came to our room, drank some water, then slept on my bed. She got up when I tried to sleep, but she came to the bed while I was sleeping.
Some unexpected stuff has been happening since that incident about which I still feel bad. First of all, she doesn't run away from me, or feel stressed around me. I expected to have a worse relationship after that, but she seems like she doesn't care. But there are some moments when I catch her looks, saying "Scr*w you, human" lol. But these were always there, I guess. She also somehow feels secure around me, enough to still jump on me to play. Although she now has the chance to go to 3 other rooms, she chooses to stay where I am. First I thought she stays here because her food is here, but she comes with me to another room as well.
Here are some photos which are taken while I'm writing this. Note that the incident is still fresh (Maybe 10 hours ago) and I wouldn't blame her if she tried to attack me again.
"What is this now, human? A selfie of me and your shirt?"
"Oh, my tail!"
"You sneaky you!"
"I don't care what you do"
Now, what is this? Did she forgive me? Or something else is happening? Is it possible that she feels forced to do what she does now because I'm the one who feeds her?
What can I do to strengthen the trust and bond between us ( Of course, first thing to do is not to hit her again, I know)? It looks like her trust and love is not affected by the incident, but it has to...
I am confused. Help me and my cat.