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Hi Webchap.Originally Posted by webchap
I totally agree with this guy. When a woman says to you "maybe" this mainly means "no." However it sounds better because it implies an element of possibility which in reality does not exist.
Women commonly use this sort of vague language in dating scenarios, its all part of the games that they play.
I know it is hard for you having the feelings for her. And i want you to know that while your feelings are a good thing, in terms of being with her in the future, they are stabbing you in the back right now!
how about this hypothetical scenario, she is dating another guy which she is not sure is going to work, so just in case she tells you "maybe" you and her can be in a relationship again, so she has a backup-option if things go wrong with the other guy.
you have to realise that you are worth more than this! otherwise nothing can save you!
go try some new hobbies you've always wondered about, meet new people, make yourself the source of your self esteem!
webchap
Well, as I said maybe I should shed more light on my story and on "who I am" and that will help you to better understand me.
My name is Arie, I'm 22 years old, and currently I'm not in United States. I'm a US citizen though but I got my citizenship through my dad.
I've been in the United States for the 1st time in my life only in this year, in March 2007 and the reason I came to the states was taking a vacation from what I do where I do it (no, it's not a job nor work, it's something else which right now I'd rather not tell anyone, maybe Anne, the admin, could know but I'm not sure she's reading my post so never mind)... there is a 2nd reason for myself being in US at March 2007 but I'll explain this later with my story.
I wanted to get a US citizenship because I knew it's important and I worked so hard to prove to the US embassy in my country that my father was living in the US. Actually, it was so hard for me to do so since he was born 1945 and I got some documents from schools but the embassy said any letter from school is void and it is basically nothing, because anyone could go and make up a letter.
Anyway, I did get some documents but it wasn't enough, so you know what I did? I simply said okay, let's try Yahoo Chat and that's what I did, I went into Yahoo chat, into the Jewish room because I'm myself a Jewish and I know there are lot of nice people there... so I simply asked "how do I prove my father was physically present in US?" and some people asked me "what do you mean" and bla bla, and I got a few PMs. One PM was from a lady about 40 yrs old, and she told me she would love to help me.
I did talk to this lady and we had a chat on the MSN and on the phone and I got to know her a little bit better, and guess what - she gave me addresses of local government offices in US and I sent letters to them and I got 1 day a package by mail with a lot of documents showing my father worked in the USPS for 11 years (he really did, in NY) and also letters showing he worked in other places and she also told me to ask for a transcript from the Census bureau to show his presence and basically that was enough for me to get my US citizenship.
So I told this lady I really must thank her and she said I should come and visit her and I also brought up this idea to come and visit her just as a "thank you", you know.
So that all happened around Septmeber 2005. Because of what I do again and where I was I couldn't see this lady before March 2007.
I kept in touch with this lady and during the time we talked ... guess what ... her daughter was also some times in the computer and we had some chats here and there, but I've never never ever felt something towards her daughter, never.
Only when I came for my first time into the states, I was first with my family in NY-NJ (got to know my dad's family for the first time, they're really nice) and I was basically for 2 weeks in US, so I thought to come just for the weekend to visit this lady and thank her for everything and I thought on Sunday to visit my uncle in California, but then - things have changed.
I asked her daughter, which is the gf I'm speaking about of course, if she wants to go to see a NBA game and she loved the idea... so when we met for the first time at March 2007, we saw the game... but again - I had no clue that things are going to change!
I've been with her for another day there (I came on Wed's evening and thought about leaving on Sunday) and on Saturday's evening we were together and then she expressed her feelings and I did it too... I wasn't so sure about it but I did see in her eyes or felt like she's the one. I canceled my trip to CA and stayed with her until the time I had to leave and it was more difficult for her when I left, I had less feelings towards her by the time then.
This is weird story, I know, and we did love each other so much.
I hope that maybe now you better understand me or see where I am.
I know today isn't March but I did came to see her again on April and we were together for a short time at the end of July, and I'm thinking how to move on and how to make things better.
The thing that I did that I had to do is gone, it will be gone next week and next week right away, right away when it's gone I'm taking my flight, I told her so, I so wanna see her, and now when she says things have changed - I don't know
Maybe now you got more points about it
Arie