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di and bob, and all who lovingly responded to our little Pepper. Your love and compassion is truly appreciated. Thank you all!I, too, lost my little one two weeks before Christmas, 6 years ago. Those first few Christmases were like reopening a wound. The pain was hard to get through when the world is rejoicing around you.
After a few years I began to use the season and the bright lights as a way to remember her, to send her messages of love along the beams of light that are sent to the heavens. My heart still breaks if I let myself go back to that last day, but time has given me the strength to put the hurt where it belongs, in the past, and to concentrate on the present instead. There are so many things that I can change, can prevent from being painful in the future, and these are only learned through what we have been through, gained through knowledge we learned in the past. One thing I learned is it does absolutely no good to dwell on something, live our present lives based on something in our past. No matter how much we want it to be different the past is set, and every day we are given is a gift, a 'present' given to us that is meant to bring joy and happiness, just for the simple fact that we are alive. We are alive to allow our loved ones to live on through us, to experience what we are experiencing, because they live on forever in our hearts, are a part of our very souls.
So send that sweet Pepper thoughts of love and tell her how much she is missed. She feels the same and is at peace because she was so loved, so loved then, and so loved now, that will never change. The new path she follows will forever parallel your own, she will always be as near as your thoughts and prayers. A love like that will never die , it exists for eternity.
My heart goes out to you. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. RIP dear little Pepper, you will forever have a secure place in a loving heart. The Heavens will keep your tiny soul safe and warm, until you are reunited once again with the one who loves you so very much!
Jcatbird,,, thank you for sharing heartaches, for caring, and the love we feel from our kitties. Last May, when I had my "cerebral hemorrhage" and lost a bunch of short term memory, little Pepper want to be near me, look at me, at purr a lot. I'm sure she was letting me know everything would be okay!True that it does not get easier. I have lost kitties and my child. I do feel that something of them remains with us as long as we are here. I still feel the loss. I also managed to reach a point where some thought of them made me remember something wonderful about them. Some things do make us smile again.
We are all here for you if you want us. You can share anything here and others will have empathy. Maybe later you can tell us of something that will bring you a smile. We all need smiles. I am glad the other kitties are there to help you. I know they sense what you feel. Mine often come to comfort me. They don’t replace the ones lost but they offer us love.
Awwwwww. I’m sorry you suffered through that. She was letting you know it would be okay. They do sense things. I’m sure she will want you to know that again. The love they give continues inside us. My daughter’s kitty was especially close to me when I returned from nearly three weeks of staying at the hospital with my child. I returned in the wee hours of the morning alone and her kitty stayed glued to me after that. I know she knew that my daughter was gone. She was a great comfort to me and I hope I was to her. More recently I had to rescue a kitty that had been adopted. Two actually. A brother and sister. I now comfort them since the event had been quite traumatic for them. Banjo and Whistle will be staying with me permanently. As I write, Banjo is behind me on the sofa and Whistle is asleep in my lap. On hard days, they seem very in tune to my moods and are especially affectionate. I notice their moods too. All the kitties seem to have some understanding of what we go through and a desire to make it better. They are amazing. I’m always grateful for them. We should all care like this.