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Hi guys. I have a saddening question for you. I had a cat for about 8 years. We're living in an apartment with a personel garden. He had never been out. I was even freaking out that he would catch something and get sick if he accidentally stepped on our doormat etc. (Severe health anxiety) (So sad knowing all these and letting him out now.)
So he always had behavioral problems, he was unneutered, randomly spraying throughout the house, peeing on places like sofas or cushions when stressed. (I missed him so much guys.)
We had been married for about 3 years when i found him. He was the littlest thing i've ever known, took care of him like my dearest, so longed baby then we eventually had children.
Many had changed after having children of course, people accused me of being so reckless for letting them live with a cat that they could catch zoonotic diseases or accidentally inhale pet hair etc. I never minded, for i knew a disease free full time indoor cat never poses any health risks for children.
But things changed. Husband started nagging about the cat almost every night, we eventually lost peace, every single human being i knew started to tell me that a cat belonged outside and it is unfair to keep him in. (It is "a" cat for them but a family member for me. They never understood.) They even told me that i was violating their rights because they didn't want a cat odour in their building, (?) didnt want to see pet hair on their window sills, and i was wasting so much water due to caring for a cat. (Those could be forms of passive aggessive behaviour or kind of psychological abuse, if i am to name it.)
So it was a very hard transition, i tried leaving him out at daytime and getting him in at night. One time he got lost for about 3 days, i was constantly calling and looking for him and wept until i met him again. Then I secretly kept him home for some more time, he used to love sleeping in my wardrobe so i came up with an idea, he was free in the house during daytime and then i was hiding him inside my wardrobe when husband had been home for about 2 hours. (Husband didnt stay at home at that period of time because of work.) But that phase also came up to an end.
My cat lives outdoors for about 2 months now. I see him fading away from day to day, yesterday he even refused to eat the wet food he once loved most. So i need advice guys. How can i provide him a comfortable place like he used to have in my home, and how can i prevent other cats eating his food, and how can i prevent him feeling unwanted and left?
I have a 3 year old and a 3 months old baby so i have to beg these people to watch out kids so that i can bring food to my cat. They also keep telling me he should cope with it and i can't take care of him forever.
So he always had behavioral problems, he was unneutered, randomly spraying throughout the house, peeing on places like sofas or cushions when stressed. (I missed him so much guys.)
We had been married for about 3 years when i found him. He was the littlest thing i've ever known, took care of him like my dearest, so longed baby then we eventually had children.
Many had changed after having children of course, people accused me of being so reckless for letting them live with a cat that they could catch zoonotic diseases or accidentally inhale pet hair etc. I never minded, for i knew a disease free full time indoor cat never poses any health risks for children.
But things changed. Husband started nagging about the cat almost every night, we eventually lost peace, every single human being i knew started to tell me that a cat belonged outside and it is unfair to keep him in. (It is "a" cat for them but a family member for me. They never understood.) They even told me that i was violating their rights because they didn't want a cat odour in their building, (?) didnt want to see pet hair on their window sills, and i was wasting so much water due to caring for a cat. (Those could be forms of passive aggessive behaviour or kind of psychological abuse, if i am to name it.)
So it was a very hard transition, i tried leaving him out at daytime and getting him in at night. One time he got lost for about 3 days, i was constantly calling and looking for him and wept until i met him again. Then I secretly kept him home for some more time, he used to love sleeping in my wardrobe so i came up with an idea, he was free in the house during daytime and then i was hiding him inside my wardrobe when husband had been home for about 2 hours. (Husband didnt stay at home at that period of time because of work.) But that phase also came up to an end.
My cat lives outdoors for about 2 months now. I see him fading away from day to day, yesterday he even refused to eat the wet food he once loved most. So i need advice guys. How can i provide him a comfortable place like he used to have in my home, and how can i prevent other cats eating his food, and how can i prevent him feeling unwanted and left?
I have a 3 year old and a 3 months old baby so i have to beg these people to watch out kids so that i can bring food to my cat. They also keep telling me he should cope with it and i can't take care of him forever.