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Ok, so almost a year ago I got a kitten for a hopeful companion for my older cat. I started to do the slow intro methods but trouble stated right at the start when she saw me bring him in and later that week he had ran out of his room he was staying in when I went to feed him as the elder cat tends to follow me and needless to say she wasn’t thrilled which was to be expected.
However, the slow intro didn’t go as planned. I put her feeding bowl on the other side of the door and even had them room swap so he could explore the apartment, even staying out on weekends when I went home and took the elder with me (elder is female(fixed) and the kitten male, now fixed) to get his scent mixed in with her’s. Still she wants nothing to do with this other cat. Even having a barrier up so he’d have more room seemed to never help and he always was finding ways to get around the barrier, to the point he couldn’t be contained cause he would keep tearing it down. Sadly since I don’t want him lockedm8n a room all the time I have him out when I work and home til dinner time.
He wants to be friendly but she still hisses and hides from him. I think even now sometimes he tries to pick on her. So she now tends to hide cept the times he’s not out and even now lately it feels like she’s distencing From me as she doesn’t spend much time with me in the evening. I feel at this point it’s very much a territory thing with her and she’s passive enough that she won’t defend and help the now young cat know proper behavior and such. I’m at a loss. I feel the damage is too far done and even moving to a new place will never see the two get along. I’ve tried pharamones at the start peacemaker drops and mood relaxing chews for the past two months and none seem to be having an effect on the behavior of both cats. I hate to rehome the young cat as I’ve grown attached but also looking out for the health (mental at this point as she still eats and is in good healt) but he does his own issues as well… (which will be a future thread here, really need to fix a few bad habits on his end too).
However, the slow intro didn’t go as planned. I put her feeding bowl on the other side of the door and even had them room swap so he could explore the apartment, even staying out on weekends when I went home and took the elder with me (elder is female(fixed) and the kitten male, now fixed) to get his scent mixed in with her’s. Still she wants nothing to do with this other cat. Even having a barrier up so he’d have more room seemed to never help and he always was finding ways to get around the barrier, to the point he couldn’t be contained cause he would keep tearing it down. Sadly since I don’t want him lockedm8n a room all the time I have him out when I work and home til dinner time.
He wants to be friendly but she still hisses and hides from him. I think even now sometimes he tries to pick on her. So she now tends to hide cept the times he’s not out and even now lately it feels like she’s distencing From me as she doesn’t spend much time with me in the evening. I feel at this point it’s very much a territory thing with her and she’s passive enough that she won’t defend and help the now young cat know proper behavior and such. I’m at a loss. I feel the damage is too far done and even moving to a new place will never see the two get along. I’ve tried pharamones at the start peacemaker drops and mood relaxing chews for the past two months and none seem to be having an effect on the behavior of both cats. I hate to rehome the young cat as I’ve grown attached but also looking out for the health (mental at this point as she still eats and is in good healt) but he does his own issues as well… (which will be a future thread here, really need to fix a few bad habits on his end too).