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So I have a couple of issues. I adopted a 10 month old Calico named Cai in November of 2013. She is now 2 years old. I already had my boy, Shadow, who just happens to be 3 months older than Cali. That is right, I have two 2 year olds.
Cali was a rescue and was found outside an acerage right before she was found and given to the rescue. She has been through a lot. She was 10 months, pregnant and had a upper respiratory infection. Due to stress and another infection in her uterus, her babies ended up aborted by her a day after coming into rescue. She had an emergency spay after that and was vaccinated, etc. She came to me after all that.
Ever since she has come home to me, she became a little jealous of her new brother. It wasn't an issue because she calmed down quickly and those two are now very close that you would think they came from the same litter. In the last 4 months, she has slowly gone back to being jealous of Shadow. It seems to be getting worse everyday. With this behaviour is also her excessive need to be loved constantly. If I ignore her, she excessively meows but does give up after like a half hour. As for the jealousy, after giving her lots of love and attention, I will go to Shadow so he doesn't feel left out. Once I start petting him she rubs my hand with her head, which is on Shadow, rubbing Shadow in the process of pushing him away with her head and body. At this point, Shadow feels his space is overly violated and he turns and walk away.
Then tonight, something else came up. I feed them a half can of wet can food every other day. They each get the food on their own plate. I do this because Shadow can thinks that if it is all on one plate, it is all his. I did this to also squash any jealousy. So Cali Surprised me a little. She started to eat her food then 2 min later she pushes Shadow away from his food and proceeds to eat off his plate. I had to redirect her back to her plate. Few minutes later, Shadow repaid that gesture by doing the same to her. Pay back lol. So ao had to redirect him.
I don't know if this is normal with a multiple cat household to have jealousy like this. I don't know if Cali is feeling insecure so she feels like she needs so much attention that she will do anything to get it. I don't know, I just have noticed that her need for more attention has become a little excessive and with her jealousy, she has become rude with Shadow. Good thing Shadow cares about her to much to lash out at her when she does push him away from me.
I know this is long lol. I like to get it all out there. I am wondering if anyone has any ideas for her change in behaviour and if there is anything, at home, I can do to make her feel like she gets the attention she needs and to make her not feel so jealous of Shadow.
Cali was a rescue and was found outside an acerage right before she was found and given to the rescue. She has been through a lot. She was 10 months, pregnant and had a upper respiratory infection. Due to stress and another infection in her uterus, her babies ended up aborted by her a day after coming into rescue. She had an emergency spay after that and was vaccinated, etc. She came to me after all that.
Ever since she has come home to me, she became a little jealous of her new brother. It wasn't an issue because she calmed down quickly and those two are now very close that you would think they came from the same litter. In the last 4 months, she has slowly gone back to being jealous of Shadow. It seems to be getting worse everyday. With this behaviour is also her excessive need to be loved constantly. If I ignore her, she excessively meows but does give up after like a half hour. As for the jealousy, after giving her lots of love and attention, I will go to Shadow so he doesn't feel left out. Once I start petting him she rubs my hand with her head, which is on Shadow, rubbing Shadow in the process of pushing him away with her head and body. At this point, Shadow feels his space is overly violated and he turns and walk away.
Then tonight, something else came up. I feed them a half can of wet can food every other day. They each get the food on their own plate. I do this because Shadow can thinks that if it is all on one plate, it is all his. I did this to also squash any jealousy. So Cali Surprised me a little. She started to eat her food then 2 min later she pushes Shadow away from his food and proceeds to eat off his plate. I had to redirect her back to her plate. Few minutes later, Shadow repaid that gesture by doing the same to her. Pay back lol. So ao had to redirect him.
I don't know if this is normal with a multiple cat household to have jealousy like this. I don't know if Cali is feeling insecure so she feels like she needs so much attention that she will do anything to get it. I don't know, I just have noticed that her need for more attention has become a little excessive and with her jealousy, she has become rude with Shadow. Good thing Shadow cares about her to much to lash out at her when she does push him away from me.
I know this is long lol. I like to get it all out there. I am wondering if anyone has any ideas for her change in behaviour and if there is anything, at home, I can do to make her feel like she gets the attention she needs and to make her not feel so jealous of Shadow.
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