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Thank you Heidi. You are so right. Gotta love politics eh. It's the same with the welfare system, too many abuse it so those of us who truly need it get treated poorly.Originally Posted by valanhb
Chris, I really feel for you. Any chronic condition makes life just miserable, and to not be able to get the help you deserve from the medical profession makes it 10 times worse. Unfortunately, doctors are being scrutinized by the DEA over what, what doses and how much they prescribe. Makes it that much harder for the people who need it to get it, but I guess they figure that's OK as long as the small percentage of jerks who don't need it have a harder time too.Bureaucratic logic at its finest. Then pile everything else you've had/got going on on top of your already full plate, and I'm sure it's overwhelming in the best of times, and suffocating in the worst.
The only thing I can tell you is to try to think of the positive things in your life. Even if the only thing you can come up with is that you're still breathing, that's still better than the alternative.
You have a husband who loves you.
You have two beautiful daughters who are growing up and learning to spread their wings (that is what all that 13-year-old attitude is, and why she's so intent with bickering with her sister).
You have shared a wonderful lifetime with Brandy, and have one more week with her to shower her with love.
Kizzy and Kitchi have gotten to be good friends, just what each of them needed. And how can you look at Wide Load and Tiny Butt and not smile?
I did print off a pic of wide load and tiny butt
Thanks MicheleOriginally Posted by Crazyforinfo
Wow I am so sorry you are going through all this at once.
BIG HUGS for you Chris.
Originally Posted by jennyranson
I feel for you and can understand so much of what you are going through. There are times when you just feel you can't take another thing going wrong, and when all those are major, then we all crack. But it will pass, things will get better, and you will have gained strength from what you are going through now. Is there any way you can change your doctor? it sounds like you don't have much faith in this one, and that is one area of our lives where we need to feel secure as we are so vulnerable.
Many many vibes coming over for you
Originally Posted by Emy4cats
I would try talking to a different Dr.
I hope things get better soon.
No I don't have any faith in my current doc. We are trying a different method of talking to him at my next appt. in Aug. (documentation and such, because he doesn't listen to me/us) and if that doesn't work we will be exploring alternatives, whether that be a formal complaint or ????Originally Posted by Essayons89
I'm sorry your going through a rough spell. that things get better.
I wish it were as simple as switching doc's to try different ways to manage my pain
Thank you both for the well wishes
thank youOriginally Posted by nurseangel
I'm so sorry. You were there when I needed you and you are a very giving person. I hope things get better soon.
me too, me too. I hope today isn't too bad on you (and any others who suffer more when the weather changes)Originally Posted by tierre0
I certainly can understand were you are coming from on the pain issue, chronic pain has a way of over-whelming most other things in your life. Then added to it the other day to day stress and things can get very frustrating, and depressing.
All I can say is I hope things even out for you soon.. Lots of support vibes coming your way.
Thanks Gail...I'm definately going to check out a bio feedback clinic. I have never heard of one.... and yes, definately need my me time, which is quite scarce when summer is here. Stress level does indeed make things worse because unfortunately I carry alot of stress in my back, which is one of the injured areas.... Time to make a massage therepy appt. She's pretty good at working out the tense areas as she does deep tissue massage with me....Originally Posted by GailC
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Have you ever thought about (if one is available) going to a bio feedback clinic for chronic pain??
Having two daughters without another spouse present several days/week must be hard to manage on top of dealing with your pain.
I'm a big fan of Oprah who is a believer in "me" time. I think you are due for some serious "me" time. I think it would help with your stress level.
I have one cat with a long term illness and another with severe dental issues and in the past have had others with health problems. At times its overwhelming to deal with it all.
I think your increased stress at home dealing with all that you have on your plate may be making your pain issues worse.
Is it possible to have a family meeting with your spouse and the girls to let them know you are stretched mighty thin??
Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Take care of yourself first!!
Thanks Laurie.... hugeOriginally Posted by LDG
Chronic pain bites the big one, and that is probably the understatement of the year. There has been just too much grief in your life lately. Your DH works a job that's far away, and your girls are old enough to be serious pains in the butt.
You're not just trapped in your house and the insane stress of life of late - you are trapped in a body that is fighting you every step of the way and your doctor sucks.
I think you deserve a big, long vent and a good long cry. I wish I was there to hug you.
Laurie
Thank you *hugs* (too many smilies in this post) I do see a massage therepist on a semi-regular basis, as well as physio 3x wk for the surgeried hand... Unfortunately physio can't do anything about my back or elbows (I have passive stretches I try for them, plus a TENS unit that I also use). I'm very open to suggestions that don't involve doc's (since I don't have the ability to get another one). I do have a hottub as well, which helps on the days I can actually get into it.Originally Posted by Ms. Freya
Sending a bigand plenty of that this will pas and things will calm down for you. You've had a heck of a time lately and I second the suggestion of getting yourself some 'me' time. After bad patches, I think it's necessary just to detox shut down and rest.
Also, it might not hurt to talk to another Dr. even just to get an idea of what else could help you manage the pain.
Thanks Jacky *hugs*Originally Posted by mews2much
I hope you feel better.