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Good evening, y'all! First post here. I've been having some trouble for awhile, and finally decided to cave in and ask for some help/advice/input.
Quick breakdown of all my cats:
My first cat, Yuri, came to me as a starving scrawny stray about 6 months old. She is now 3. She meowed outside the door and I let her in and she made herself at home. I was at my mom's at the time and she would go outside when I would come home and always come back at night. She'd even wait for me to get home by the driveway. I have a special bond with her. Yuri is a chill cat who enjoys lots of naps, food, and being left alone on her schedule.
1.5 years ago I got Laela as a kitten. Yuri was angry for months, but she adapted. Still, Yuri never wanted to play and would always playfully attack Yuri which she didn't like. So 1 year ago I got Ygritte, a bengal kitten. Laela and Ygritte bonded quickly and rough house all the time. They act like litter mates, playing, grooming one another etc.
Since the additional kittens, I have seen Yuri change. I don't think she knew how to play, really, growing up as a kitten in survival mode. I've seen her begrudgingly develop social cat behavior, and she likes to play sometimes and chase the others (but gets mad when she's the one getting caught... it's quite amusing!). It's been really cool to see the development, and sometimes I get a kick out of just watching them run around and interact.
A problem sort of solved:
So I lived in a one bedroom apartment on the third floor, and now I live in a two bedroom apartment on the third floor. All of the cats, but especially Yuri, love to go out on the porch and hang out. In the one bedroom apartment I had one litterbox for two cats, and even when I got a third I still had a single litter box. When I moved into the bigger apartment, I got a second litterbox and put them both in the guest bathroom. None of this was ever a problem.
At one point a few months ago I was struggling with PTSD and depression and went like two weeks with a disgusting home and not changing the litter. This is my fault. Yuri started peeing in one spot in the hallway. Then it turned to pooping. None of the others ever did, and still used the litter boxes. After several months of this, including deep carpet cleanings, I gave up. I put the litter box in the hallway where she was using the bathroom. It worked, but then she started using the bathroom next to that litterbox. Then I covered that whole place in the hallway with bathroom rugs. It is no longer a problem. The litterbox is in use full time.
My best guess is that the pee was so set into the carpet that she kept smelling the pheromones and would use the bathroom there. In a few months upon lease renewal my apartment managers are putting in wood floors, so hopefully I can move the litterboxes back to the bathroom. Additionally, I literally have no room for third litterbox. But I don't think that's a problem.
A question needs answered:
But I still wonder if Yuri was happier as a single cat. She doesn't eat next to the others unless it's Tuna Tuesday, which really gets everyone excited. Like I said she plays with the others some, but a lot of the time she seems annoyed they're around. Laela has tried to groom her a few times and she only accepts one or two licks before getting mad about it, lol.
I love each of my cats passionately. They are all so dear to my heart and I love each of them for their quirks. Yuri is the loner who loves cuddles but bites you to let you know she's done. Laela is the lover who gets mad at me when I go to bed or leave for work, and flops in the floor and lets me put my foot on her as a I say " Crush the kitty!" and rough her up with my foot. Ygritte the bengal kitty loves to gallop away when I run towards her, and she only likes being petted when she can slide and slink around like a slinky.
But I want to do what is best for all, and with a heavy heart I am wondering if the two younger ones should (with careful and deliberate choosiness) go to a new home together. Then it would just be me and Yuri. Which could pose a problem for any future partner of mine, who may have an animal too, but I digress...
How do I know if my cat is a "one cat only" kind of cat who just enjoys being a solitary, chill cat? How do I know if she's unhappy? Like I said, she sometimes eats near the younger two, she sometimes plays with them, and she even will roll on her tummy with one nearby. But I can still tell she's always on the lookout.
I still think the pee problem was a scent-only kind of thing due to the history and solution of the issue, and I am really excited about getting wood floors lol, but it's made me question whether or not have three cats is the best idea, despite my intense love. I just want to make sure everyone is happy, especially Yuri, and any input is valued. THANK YOU!!
YURI
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LAELA
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YGRITTE
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Quick breakdown of all my cats:
My first cat, Yuri, came to me as a starving scrawny stray about 6 months old. She is now 3. She meowed outside the door and I let her in and she made herself at home. I was at my mom's at the time and she would go outside when I would come home and always come back at night. She'd even wait for me to get home by the driveway. I have a special bond with her. Yuri is a chill cat who enjoys lots of naps, food, and being left alone on her schedule.
1.5 years ago I got Laela as a kitten. Yuri was angry for months, but she adapted. Still, Yuri never wanted to play and would always playfully attack Yuri which she didn't like. So 1 year ago I got Ygritte, a bengal kitten. Laela and Ygritte bonded quickly and rough house all the time. They act like litter mates, playing, grooming one another etc.
Since the additional kittens, I have seen Yuri change. I don't think she knew how to play, really, growing up as a kitten in survival mode. I've seen her begrudgingly develop social cat behavior, and she likes to play sometimes and chase the others (but gets mad when she's the one getting caught... it's quite amusing!). It's been really cool to see the development, and sometimes I get a kick out of just watching them run around and interact.
A problem sort of solved:
So I lived in a one bedroom apartment on the third floor, and now I live in a two bedroom apartment on the third floor. All of the cats, but especially Yuri, love to go out on the porch and hang out. In the one bedroom apartment I had one litterbox for two cats, and even when I got a third I still had a single litter box. When I moved into the bigger apartment, I got a second litterbox and put them both in the guest bathroom. None of this was ever a problem.
At one point a few months ago I was struggling with PTSD and depression and went like two weeks with a disgusting home and not changing the litter. This is my fault. Yuri started peeing in one spot in the hallway. Then it turned to pooping. None of the others ever did, and still used the litter boxes. After several months of this, including deep carpet cleanings, I gave up. I put the litter box in the hallway where she was using the bathroom. It worked, but then she started using the bathroom next to that litterbox. Then I covered that whole place in the hallway with bathroom rugs. It is no longer a problem. The litterbox is in use full time.
My best guess is that the pee was so set into the carpet that she kept smelling the pheromones and would use the bathroom there. In a few months upon lease renewal my apartment managers are putting in wood floors, so hopefully I can move the litterboxes back to the bathroom. Additionally, I literally have no room for third litterbox. But I don't think that's a problem.
A question needs answered:
But I still wonder if Yuri was happier as a single cat. She doesn't eat next to the others unless it's Tuna Tuesday, which really gets everyone excited. Like I said she plays with the others some, but a lot of the time she seems annoyed they're around. Laela has tried to groom her a few times and she only accepts one or two licks before getting mad about it, lol.
I love each of my cats passionately. They are all so dear to my heart and I love each of them for their quirks. Yuri is the loner who loves cuddles but bites you to let you know she's done. Laela is the lover who gets mad at me when I go to bed or leave for work, and flops in the floor and lets me put my foot on her as a I say " Crush the kitty!" and rough her up with my foot. Ygritte the bengal kitty loves to gallop away when I run towards her, and she only likes being petted when she can slide and slink around like a slinky.
But I want to do what is best for all, and with a heavy heart I am wondering if the two younger ones should (with careful and deliberate choosiness) go to a new home together. Then it would just be me and Yuri. Which could pose a problem for any future partner of mine, who may have an animal too, but I digress...
How do I know if my cat is a "one cat only" kind of cat who just enjoys being a solitary, chill cat? How do I know if she's unhappy? Like I said, she sometimes eats near the younger two, she sometimes plays with them, and she even will roll on her tummy with one nearby. But I can still tell she's always on the lookout.
I still think the pee problem was a scent-only kind of thing due to the history and solution of the issue, and I am really excited about getting wood floors lol, but it's made me question whether or not have three cats is the best idea, despite my intense love. I just want to make sure everyone is happy, especially Yuri, and any input is valued. THANK YOU!!
YURI
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LAELA
View media item 340297
YGRITTE
View media item 340298