My best friend is driving down from AZ this week for spring break and is bringing her bf, mom, her sister and her two kids. Her parents have been divorced for many years now and obviously still have unresolved issues. Her old house where she grew up is here in TX two streets down from me.
So my best friend called me this past weekend to ask if her mom could stay with us. Mind you, we have no contact with her whatsoever. The father gave the old house to his son because he has to work to support this soon to be two kids and not much education...I'm digressing...(just another thing I disapprove of)
Anyway for whatever reason, which is probably more than one, they said no. They are off, have things to do and would like to go somewhere. The last time they came down, my mom let her, but ended up picking up after her and just came and went as she pleased.
My mom told my best friend that we really did not have the room(which is true) and that my dad said no. She completely understood, had no hard feelings and didn't blame us. So on monday, the son calls, knowing we work during the week, and leaves a message asking if his mom can stay and that she doesn't have to sleep on the floor, that she will bring her own stuff, and that she can sleep on the floor. I mean he had some nerve! I know my best friend had nothing to do with this and that it is the mother. I think it's tacky to get your kids stuck in the middle to begin with and she knew this was coming, so you should have planned better. The big issue here is that the mom and dad don't get along well, he does not want her staying at the old house even though he gave it to the son and he is living somewhere else now anyway.
You know you shouldn't incovenience and make other uncomfortable just because you are not comfortable resolving your own issues! My mom was soooo pissed when she heard the message and frankly so am I. What I once was looking forward to, I no longer am. I have no interest in seeing anyone in her family at this point, nor do I want to have to explain the reason why they do not want her to stay, which I won't, and the fact they can't respect my parent's wishes and basically where she is trying to invite herself when she is not invited to begin with!
I mean is it me or is that just plain rude and careless???? I am basically going to tell my best friend, look you know where I leave, your family has irritated me to the point where I do not wish to see them,( I know it's NOT her fault, she would NEVER do that), and she knows where to find me.
I have a feeling her mom might also try to show up, but I'm not letting her in. What do you guys think?? I don't know if I should tell my friend, etc. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I don't want to see the others at all, or talk to them.
So my best friend called me this past weekend to ask if her mom could stay with us. Mind you, we have no contact with her whatsoever. The father gave the old house to his son because he has to work to support this soon to be two kids and not much education...I'm digressing...(just another thing I disapprove of)
Anyway for whatever reason, which is probably more than one, they said no. They are off, have things to do and would like to go somewhere. The last time they came down, my mom let her, but ended up picking up after her and just came and went as she pleased.
My mom told my best friend that we really did not have the room(which is true) and that my dad said no. She completely understood, had no hard feelings and didn't blame us. So on monday, the son calls, knowing we work during the week, and leaves a message asking if his mom can stay and that she doesn't have to sleep on the floor, that she will bring her own stuff, and that she can sleep on the floor. I mean he had some nerve! I know my best friend had nothing to do with this and that it is the mother. I think it's tacky to get your kids stuck in the middle to begin with and she knew this was coming, so you should have planned better. The big issue here is that the mom and dad don't get along well, he does not want her staying at the old house even though he gave it to the son and he is living somewhere else now anyway.
You know you shouldn't incovenience and make other uncomfortable just because you are not comfortable resolving your own issues! My mom was soooo pissed when she heard the message and frankly so am I. What I once was looking forward to, I no longer am. I have no interest in seeing anyone in her family at this point, nor do I want to have to explain the reason why they do not want her to stay, which I won't, and the fact they can't respect my parent's wishes and basically where she is trying to invite herself when she is not invited to begin with!
I have a feeling her mom might also try to show up, but I'm not letting her in. What do you guys think?? I don't know if I should tell my friend, etc. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I don't want to see the others at all, or talk to them.