Hello -
It's been 11 years since I last posted, when I was having problems with my very first cat adjusting to a new kitten. Since then, that elder cat has passed away, and the kitten is now a senior cat.
I'm posting again because I have a similar issue with the now-senior cat and a new kitten I adopted. I wasn't planning on getting another cat, but after the first one passed away, the one left behind grew very lonely and needy. She is a sweet Maine Coon mix who mostly sleeps and doesn't play much.
Unfortunately, the new kitten, a 4 1/2 month old calico, has turned out to be an extremely rambunctious kitty who wants to play all the time, and has grown aggressive in trying to get the older cat to play with her. She pounces on the older cat constantly, and the older cat won't fight back. She's turned into a bundle of nerves. Spaying the kitten has only minimally helped the situation.They couldn't be more mismatched.
There are occasional moments of peace. At night, the kitten has sometimes tried to cuddle with the older cat, but because their relationship is so tense, the older cat usually whines and moves somewhere else. I'm being as patient as I can about getting the kitten to stop pouncing on the older cat, mostly by telling her to stop, or blocking her flight pattern, or using 15 minute time-outs when she's really out of control. And I give both cats treats during the rare moments when they can pass by and sniff each other without things turning into a major incident.
And I think today we had a breakthrough. While resting on the bed, the kitten groomed the older cat, who allowed her to do so for a full minute. Usually when the kitten so much as brushes against her, the older cat whines and runs away.
Unfortunately, 10 minutes after I gave them treats, the kitten pounced again. But I'm pretty encouraged by the grooming. My question is, should I be? Is this a hopeful sign that they'll eventually live in peace? Or is it nothing to get too exited about? I'm really hoping for the former.
Thanks,
Emile
It's been 11 years since I last posted, when I was having problems with my very first cat adjusting to a new kitten. Since then, that elder cat has passed away, and the kitten is now a senior cat.
I'm posting again because I have a similar issue with the now-senior cat and a new kitten I adopted. I wasn't planning on getting another cat, but after the first one passed away, the one left behind grew very lonely and needy. She is a sweet Maine Coon mix who mostly sleeps and doesn't play much.
Unfortunately, the new kitten, a 4 1/2 month old calico, has turned out to be an extremely rambunctious kitty who wants to play all the time, and has grown aggressive in trying to get the older cat to play with her. She pounces on the older cat constantly, and the older cat won't fight back. She's turned into a bundle of nerves. Spaying the kitten has only minimally helped the situation.They couldn't be more mismatched.
There are occasional moments of peace. At night, the kitten has sometimes tried to cuddle with the older cat, but because their relationship is so tense, the older cat usually whines and moves somewhere else. I'm being as patient as I can about getting the kitten to stop pouncing on the older cat, mostly by telling her to stop, or blocking her flight pattern, or using 15 minute time-outs when she's really out of control. And I give both cats treats during the rare moments when they can pass by and sniff each other without things turning into a major incident.
And I think today we had a breakthrough. While resting on the bed, the kitten groomed the older cat, who allowed her to do so for a full minute. Usually when the kitten so much as brushes against her, the older cat whines and runs away.
Unfortunately, 10 minutes after I gave them treats, the kitten pounced again. But I'm pretty encouraged by the grooming. My question is, should I be? Is this a hopeful sign that they'll eventually live in peace? Or is it nothing to get too exited about? I'm really hoping for the former.
Thanks,
Emile