Ok here's the story I have been with my boyfriend Brian for 4 years and I love him very much. We have a wonderful relationship together and have 6 beautiful babies(Furry babies that is) and any problems we have we work through them.
He works very long hours 6 days a week and when he comes home he drinks. I don't mind since that is his way of relaxing after a long day but he drinks 5-6 beers a night and on his one day off he drinks even more than that since he is able to start earlier in the day.
It bothered me a little before, I was concerned about long term health effects and he gained a bit of weight but I never thought of it as a problem until Monday night. He came home Monday evening at 8:00pm and I was worried sick because he usually works until 5:30 sometimes till 7 at the lastest. When he came in he was drunk as a skunk but I didn't get mad since he never really does anything with his friends. He said he stayed at the pit(He works at an excavating compan) and drank with a couple of the guys and they did doughnuts in the parking lot.
So he was fine at first, just being affectionate drunk Brian then he started asking me if I was mad. I told him no and he kept asking and asking and wouldn't let up on it. Well after a while of saying no no no no no I got irritated and it all went down hill from there. He called me a few inepropreate names, started acting carelessly and knocking things over, said a few hurtful things and after he said one particular mean thing I got in my car and left.
The next morning I told him how he acted he was shocked. He didn't remember anything and apologuised and I forgave him. This whole situation worries me since he has never treated me in this manner and even though I know he was drunk it still bothers me because it was totally out of charactor.
Of course when he was hung over he said he wasn't going to drink for a while but he resumed as soon as he got home. I know he doesn't have a problem yet but I am concerned it will esculate into one. I've tried telling him drinking so much isn't healthy but he doesn't care. I know he enjoys it a lot and he says it's the one thing he can look forward to when he gets off of work and I feel guilty for trying to take that away from him.
At the same time I am very familar with alcoholism(Practically my whole family has or had a problem with it at some point) and I can see the begining stages of it. I hate to nag him about it but he doesn't see the problem and I am wondering if it's just me. Am I taking the wrong approach? Or am I overreacting?
He works very long hours 6 days a week and when he comes home he drinks. I don't mind since that is his way of relaxing after a long day but he drinks 5-6 beers a night and on his one day off he drinks even more than that since he is able to start earlier in the day.
It bothered me a little before, I was concerned about long term health effects and he gained a bit of weight but I never thought of it as a problem until Monday night. He came home Monday evening at 8:00pm and I was worried sick because he usually works until 5:30 sometimes till 7 at the lastest. When he came in he was drunk as a skunk but I didn't get mad since he never really does anything with his friends. He said he stayed at the pit(He works at an excavating compan) and drank with a couple of the guys and they did doughnuts in the parking lot.
So he was fine at first, just being affectionate drunk Brian then he started asking me if I was mad. I told him no and he kept asking and asking and wouldn't let up on it. Well after a while of saying no no no no no I got irritated and it all went down hill from there. He called me a few inepropreate names, started acting carelessly and knocking things over, said a few hurtful things and after he said one particular mean thing I got in my car and left.
The next morning I told him how he acted he was shocked. He didn't remember anything and apologuised and I forgave him. This whole situation worries me since he has never treated me in this manner and even though I know he was drunk it still bothers me because it was totally out of charactor.
Of course when he was hung over he said he wasn't going to drink for a while but he resumed as soon as he got home. I know he doesn't have a problem yet but I am concerned it will esculate into one. I've tried telling him drinking so much isn't healthy but he doesn't care. I know he enjoys it a lot and he says it's the one thing he can look forward to when he gets off of work and I feel guilty for trying to take that away from him.
At the same time I am very familar with alcoholism(Practically my whole family has or had a problem with it at some point) and I can see the begining stages of it. I hate to nag him about it but he doesn't see the problem and I am wondering if it's just me. Am I taking the wrong approach? Or am I overreacting?